Will I love an adopted child as much as biological one?
American AdoptionsThis is one of the most common concerns expressed by our waiting families. Although they still hope to become parents one day, they often worry they won’t experience the same bond with an adopted child as they would with a biological child. As you continue to explore adoption, you may also wonder this.
Many of our prospective adoptive couples initially ask, is it possible to love an adopted child as much as we could love “our own?”
Ask any adoptive family – the response is a resounding “yes!”
Some people who have not been exposed to the world of adoption believe unconditional love is only something you can feel when you are related to someone by blood. Anyone touched by adoption will tell you otherwise.
When Mary, an American Adoptions mother, was asked to explain the way she feels about her daughter, she replied simply and elegantly, “I know I could not love my daughter any more if she were biological … every time I look at her, she simply takes my breath away at how beautiful she is and how much I love her.”
The decision to adopt a child sets adoptive couples apart in a very special way, but all agree the only real way to understand the love is to experience it firsthand.
“We made the best decision we have ever made, and decided adoption was how we would grow our family,” Mary says.” “I thought my life had hit its pinnacle when I saw the first ultrasound of the baby and learned my lifetime dreams of motherhood and a daughter were coming true – it was then I first felt unconditional love for my daughter.”
Whether born from a couple or born for them, as Mary describes, the love parents feel for their children is unconditional. There is nothing stronger.
“Each day that continues, from my daughter’s first word ‘Mama,’ to her first steps taken right into my arms, I get to live moments that make me feel like it is the best moment in my life,” Mary says.
“But in the end I know each new milestone will top the one before it, because each day as she grows I fall more and more in love with my daughter, and know she will forever sweep me off my feet, unconditionally.”
