How Can Men Explain To Their Friends They Want To Adopt?
For many men, explaining to their friends that they hope to adopt can be a difficult and uncomfortable task. Although many women find it easier to share their feelings openly with their friends, many men simply do not know how to approach such a situation.
Men, by nature, are not as open with their feelings as women. Rather than freely sharing their feelings, many men prefer to hide them or only share them with those closest to them, such as immediate family or their spouse. This private nature can often leave men at a loss of how to tell their friends about their adoption plan. Although the excitement is there ... the words simply aren't.
It is important to note that it is OK for a man to feel awkward about discussing adoption with his friends. There are many emotions that come into play when choosing adoption -- and sometimes men just aren't comfortable sharing all of their emotions with their friends. This feeling is very normal and is experienced by many men.
First, examine your friendships and determine who you feel comfortable sharing your adoption decision with. If this is just one or two very close friends, or the entire company softball team, the decision is up to you. Whoever you invite into your adoption decision is your choice.
Second, find a setting you are most comfortable in. If you are more comfortable discussing the issue over the phone or in an e-mail then do so. If you would rather share the news in person, decide where you would feel most at ease -- such as during a game of golf, at a summer cookout or even during the halftime of a football game. There is no right or wrong time or place.
Lastly, only share what you want to share. You do not have to discuss all of your reasons for wanting to adopt (such as infertility), just simply share the details you want to share. The most important thing is to share your adoption decision with those you want to share it with. It is up to you as to who -- and what -- you share about your adoption decision.
