You never think you will be one of those couples you hear about who can’t get pregnant no matter what they do. Then, one day it became a reality. Suddenly, my husband and I became one of those couples. We knew we wanted a family and fertility wasn’t for me so we started considering adoption. Thinking back, I knew I could love any baby, it didn’t have to be biological. Every time I would see a baby I was drawn to it and found myself saying, “I could take this baby home and love it as if it were my own biological child.” That’s how I knew adoption was right for my husband and me.
We had such a positive adoption experience. I guess that’s easy to say now that everything is over, but the process wasn’t totally stress free. The hardest part is that there is always going to be uncertainty, but you have to go into it knowing and accepting it for what it is; there is no guarantee in this life. However, I can tell you not to hesitate, don’t waste another day, move forward with pursuing adoption if a baby is what you want. In the end, it was the best decision we ever made.
We met with our birth mom, a 22 year old woman who already had a 2 ½ year old. We got to know her and let her get to know us. This took some time and trust on both parts. We shared a lot. She wanted us there for the birth and wanted me to share the hospital room with her and the baby, which meant the world to me. We did and it was an amazing bonding experience, the emotions were overwhelming. We keep in touch by sending pictures and updates, which is special for everyone.
The day that our daughter was born was the best day of our lives. I thought, “She is here and she is ours,” and the love is a feeling like no other. I can honestly say having her feels so right and I would not have it any other way!