October 06, 2006

Pictures And Letters After Adoption

I don't know if you recall a previous email from me inquiring about asking for pictures from my daughter's birth mother.  You advised that I should ask in my next letter which is coming up in the next couple of weeks.  I discussed this with Milton and we decided together that was a good idea.  I wrote you back and said that is what I was going to do.  Before I could write the first word Michelle and Megan sent new photos of Teka's children.  I was a little bit confused by this since I didn't even ask yet and thought someone there had asked her for me.  I sent letters to Michelle and Megan asking if they had done it and the assured me that Teka had sent them unsolicited. 

 How amazing that we were thinking the same thing at the same time.  In the meantime a woman I have befriended, whose son is also adopted, have been discussing talking to our kids about their life story.  She has gone into depth with her son way more than I have with my daughter.  I just assumed that my daughter would start asking questions since a few of her teachers at school are having babies.  My friend told me to start just saying little things every now and then and she'll follow my lead.  Then, the most recent newsletter arrived and had the article about talking with kids about adoption.  I believe in God so when He talks to me I listen.  First there was the desire to see new photos of the kids, second my friend encouraged me to talk to her more about where she came from, then this article in the newsletter.  If that's not God I don't know what is.  I sat down with my daughter and showed her the kids and told her that they came from Teka's belly and so did she.  Boy oh boy am I glad I started talking more in depth with her because she just assumed that she came from my belly.  I told her that mommy's belly was "broken" and that Teka let me be her mommy.  The first thing she wanted to do was pat my belly and said "Awww, we have to get it fixed."  I can't tell you how therapeutic these past couple of weeks has been for me.  I want to thank you for your ongoing support and being there to listen to both me and Teka.

Thanks for everything.
Sarah, Milton and Erin

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