Adoption is a very personal decision for prospective parents to make. It’s impossible to say there is one reason why people adopt — because, in actuality, every family is different and every family chooses adoption for different reasons.
Whether you’re a pregnant woman considering adoption or a prospective adoptive family, you may wonder what some of these reasons to adopt are. Prospective parents can then determine if they have one of these reasons for adoption, and prospective birth mothers can use them to understand more about the kinds of people she can choose to adopt her child.
Here are some of the commons reasons to adopt a child today:
This is one of the most common reasons that prospective parents choose adoption. In many cases, they have tried to have a child the natural way and struggled through months and even years of infertility treatments that have ultimately failed. So, they decide to pursue adoption as a different way to become parents.
In addition to infertility, some women have conditions that make a pregnancy impossible or ill-advised. Whether it’s a condition that they’ve been aware of since they were young, or something they developed during a previous pregnancy, these conditions could endanger her life, and so she turns to adoption as a way to become a mother.
In other cases, some couples may be fully capable of conceiving and having a healthy pregnancy, but they’re worried about their child being born with genetic diseases. Some parents with disorders or diseases know that there is a high chance of passing them along to their child, so they choose to adopt instead.
When people realize that they may not be able to have a child naturally because they don’t have a partner, they may decide that adoption is right for them. Instead of going through fertility treatments to have a biological child, they decide that adoption will provide them what they want — a chance to be a parent, no matter if there’s a genetic connection or not.
Similarly, LGBT couples cannot have genetically related children naturally. The IVF process will only allow one parent to be genetically related to the child, so they decide on adoption as a way to become the parents they have always dreamed about.
Whether they choose to adopt domestically, internationally or from the foster system (or an older child who is related to them), prospective adoptive parents recognize that there are many children who don’t have the loving and supportive home environments they need. Knowing that they can provide the family that this child needs, prospective adoptive parents decide to pursue the adoption process.
Prospective adoptive parents know just how much dedication having a child demands, and they know that many prospective birth mothers have other plans for their lives than raising a child. Therefore, by adopting a baby, prospective adoptive parents can help a young woman achieve her personal goals, like finishing school or advancing in her career.
Similar to the reason listed above, many prospective adoptive parents want to help better the situations of women who have found themselves in an unplanned pregnancy situation. They then specifically choose American Adoptions because of our agency’s pledge to help those women who want to continue their education, through our scholarship program.
Sometimes, people know a pregnant woman who is not ready to raise a child and is looking for someone to adopt her baby. In other situations, a relative or friend may be unable to care for an older child and needs someone to give them a better life through adoption. In either of these cases, prospective adoptive parents may step up to adopt the child from that person they already know.
There are more than 400,000 children in foster care in the United States, and some of them are awaiting adoption. These children have usually been through traumatic events in their lives and are in desperate need of a supportive family who can give them a permanent home. People who are moved by these children’s plights usually decide this is the reason for them to adopt.
There are many children in the world who, at no fault of their own, have been born into countries with less opportunity than that provided in the U.S. When a family considers international adoption, one reason is because they want to give that child a better, more stable life than they would have had in their native country.
If prospective parents don’t want to raise a child from infancy, adoption is the right choice. Perhaps prospective parents are more interested or prepared for raising a teenager and are more excited about those challenges than the challenges that come from raising a baby from birth. It’s not a reason for shame; after all, no matter what age of the adopted child, parents are giving them a family that they didn’t have before.
While some adoption agencies do not allow prospective adoptive parents to choose the gender of their future child, there are some professionals that do offer this path for parents. If prospective parents were to have children on their own, they wouldn’t be able to choose the gender; with adoption, they will, even though it may result in a longer wait time.
When hopeful parents consider their family-building options, they often look at which one has the best chance of succeeding and bringing the child they have longed for into their life. They may choose adoption because of this; after all, with adoption, they know they will have a child at the end of the process, whereas infertility treatments don’t provide that same guarantee.
Not all adoptions occur through agencies; some adoptions occur between people that know each other through simple legal processes. Stepparents who already have a parent-child relationship with their stepchild may wish to create a legal relationship, ensuring their parental rights and their child’s rights to inheritance, insurance and more. It’s also a way to bring a blended family together.
Similarly, not all adoptions involve children. Adult adoptions exist to create legal relationships between two adults that have a parent-child relationship. For example, adult adoptions can be used for a parent’s new spouse after the other parent’s death, or a foster child who has aged out of the foster care system but still has a strong connection with their former foster parents. Choosing to complete an adoption gives both parties a legal connection and benefits that they would not have had before.
Sometimes, people want very badly to be parents but don’t want to add another human being onto a planet that’s already struggling to support the existing population. Instead, to become parents, they decide to adopt a child that has already been born, doing their bit to alleviate the population crisis.
It’s no secret that the United States (and the world) is becoming more multicultural; it is estimated that by 2055, there will be no single racial or ethnic majority in the U.S. Many people are excited about the opportunity to learn about different cultures, and some even want to incorporate those into their own family through a transracial adoption. Adopting a child of a different race or culture is not anywhere near as uncommon as it used to be; in fact, many prospective adoptive families feel that creating a multicultural family is a great opportunity for all involved.
Other times, people who are perfectly capable of having biological children choose adoption because they feel like it’s what they were meant to do. It may be because of religious teachings or ethical values, or maybe it’s a conviction they’ve had for years. Either way, choosing adoption for them is an entirely emotional decision, not because of practical reasons.
This is a common idea among adoptive parents, especially those who have struggled to conceive on their own. After soul-searching, they realize that their goal is not to experience pregnancy but to become parents and add a child to their family — and they don’t need to be pregnant to do so.
Adoption is more common than you may think, and many people know someone who has adopted or is an adoptee. Seeing the beauty of a family built in this way inspires prospective parents to choose adoption, as they know just how wonderful the process is for all involved.
It’s not at all uncommon for people who have been adopted to eventually adopt their own children later in life. They are living proof of how successful adoptions can be and, knowing that there is no difference between a biological and adoptive parent’s love, they decide to help a child in need have the same positive experience that they did.
Sometimes, prospective adoptive parents cannot formally articulate what it is about adoption that interests them. They have no other reasons to adopt besides just “wanting to,” whether it’s a new desire or a desire they’ve had forever. For some people, adoption is just something that seems natural for them to do.
These are just a few of the reasons to adopt that people consider when deciding which parenthood path to take. Of course, you may have other reasons to adopt a child that are not listed here — and that’s completely normal. Every person’s situation is different, as are their individual reasons for adoption.
If you’re considering adoption and whether it’s right for you, we encourage you to contact our adoption specialists at American Adoptions. They can discuss your reasons for adoption and, when you’re ready, help you move forward with the adoption process. To learn more, please call us at 1-800-ADOPTION.
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