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Michelle	Posted: Feb 07, 2005 12:07:53 PM My name is Michelle and I am a birth mother. I believe that it should be the child's decision whether they want to meet or see their other biological siblings as well as their birth parents. I think it is helpful if the child has a say in all of this and canmake decisions even if no one else feels it is a good choice.
linda	Posted: Jan 16, 2005 05:54:25 PM sadly, i am in the opposite position. i have 2 other children whom i love with all my heart, and me and my husband are expecting another in june, but cannot afford another child. my children know that i am pregnant and my daughter especially does not want to give this child away.. how do i explain to her that i do not want to give her brother or sister away, but that we simply cannot afford another child. i dont want her to think that we love him/her any less than her because of our situation. Please help!!
Candice	Posted: Dec 17, 2004 07:17:16 AM Your feelings are true. But in reality the thought of life is only but a blink of an eye. You were given a gift, a baby. Now give a gift and let your son recieve a gift of love from his sister and birth mother. You have to realize that life is so short and if you let your feelings get in the way than what are you living for. Either way you put it, your life is a journey, it will always be, but God has chosen you to teach your child the way he should go. Show your son, he can love and let him learn from you.
Jess and Ash	Posted: Dec 15, 2004 03:31:04 PM If we were in your place we would ,let your son see his sister .That is something you should not keep from him if I was him I would not want someone to keep my sister away from me.My oldest sister Ashley was adopted and we went through the same thing.It would only be hurting your son if you would not let him see his sister .And when he grows up to realize he does have a sister he might resent you later on down the road.We hope you make the right decesion for your child and his sister. By: Jess and Ash
Elize	Posted: Dec 10, 2004 06:27:53 AM I adopted my son when he was a baby. He is 9 years old. He is a happy, loving boy. He has a half sister who contacted me and would like to meet him. He knows he is adopted but does not know that he has a half sister (12 years). I am afraid that if I allow this, that his birth mother, who he has never met would want to see him too. I feel that he is too young and that it might confuse him? Any comments or suggestions would really be appreciated.

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Once a family is active with an agency and their family profile is being shown to expectant mothers, it is also common to experience some anxiety about what impression those birth parents are getting of the family. Many waiting families worry that perhaps they aren’t attractive enough – that they must look like Tom Cruise or Nicole Kidman to adopt a child. However, this is untrue.

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TOPIC: When to tell your child that he has a sister