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BOARD: Discussions for Women who are Pregnant » What About the Adoptive Family?

TOPIC: Looking to adopt

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TammyPosted: Apr 11, 2006 02:42:10 PM
I just wanted to say that I don't think it would be a waste of an adoptive parents time to show a birth mother what a loving family they have because I am a birth mother and if I dont see that the adoptive family that want to adopt my daughter is loving I gurantee that they wont be my choice. I am giving my baby up for adoption becasue I cant give her the best life possible and I would never give her up to a family that couldnt give her the love that she needs

Here to encouragePosted: Oct 10, 2005 11:53:25 PM
I just wanted to write you to let you know that you are in my prayers. Adopting can be difficult. I know that God will place the right baby in your lives. I wish you all the luck KT

EricaPosted: Jan 27, 2005 10:09:01 AM
Thank you so much. I really appreciate the honesty you put in your reply. I have put a lot of pressure on myself lately and I have recently decided to let things happen as they will. My husband and I are eager, but we will also be patient with God's plan for us. Thanks again.

AngiePosted: Jan 27, 2005 04:29:52 AM
first of all, i wish you lots of luck with the adoption, it can be a long and very trying process. my first word of advice is not to get TOO attached until the revocation period is over, its heartbreaking if the birth mom changes her mind, i've seen it happen. second of all, dont waste to much of your time trying to show the birth mom how much of a loving family you have, that just always looked cheesie and made up to me. not that its not important to show her that, but if your family really is that way, it will show itself. instead, concentrate on making the birthmother comfortable with you. if there is a birth mother you meet and she decides no, dont take it personally, if her personality doesnt click with you, her childs probably wont either, so its probably for the best. i have been on both sides of the adoption idea before. I had my first baby when i was 15, and Aj and i were going to adopt because he couldnt seem to get me pregnant which was heart-breaking for me because i had a baby, which i gave up. after speaking to a few birthmothers, it finally happened. unfortuatly, she decided to revoke because she was unaware of some of the services she had available to her, but fortuantly, the stress was off during the time, and we got pregnant during that week, and we've had many more since. so if you do have any questions that you want my opinion on or whatever, please feel free to ask me

EricaPosted: Jan 11, 2005 01:43:37 PM
My husband and I have been married for three years and would love to adopt a child. I had to have a total hysterectomy leaving me unable to have a child with him. We are both have wonderful jobs and have recently built a new home. I have two daughters from a prior marriage and they are very excited about having a baby in the home. If you have any suggestions, comments or just words of encouragement I would love to hear from you. We have been praying for our family to grow and after reading several other messages I will keep you all in my prayers as well.



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