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| Kate | Posted: Mar 18, 2005 03:39:05 PM
I just wanted to let you know to stay strong. I think you sound like a wonderful mother. If adoption is something that sounds best to you than thats a great idea, however, I think you have to worry about your own saftey. this guy sounds like a jerk, do something for yourself and walk away. It may be hard but it is the best decision for you life. dont ever feel like you have to put up with abuse in any form. You are a woman..and he needs to respect you at all times. If you dont feel like you can leave him for you, leave him for your son!!! This is just as important a step as placing your child for adoption, only you are helping yourself, and your two and a half yearold son. Good luck you are in my thoughts and prayers. If you want to communicate with me so you have someone to talk to me e-mail is arealblonde4ever@yahoo.com. I'll listen!!!
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| Les | Posted: Jan 27, 2005 07:06:44 PM
Kara,
I am really sorry you have to make these kind of decisions. Just know there are some loving nurturing families out there that are unable to have children or can't afford the crazy fees for international adoptions. I am here if you need to talk. God bless.
Les
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| Anonymous | Posted: Jan 27, 2005 04:50:10 AM
if you havent lived with him for a year or more, ur safe my dear, he does not need to sign those papers. so what i would reccomend doing is doing the same thing i did to my babies dad before she was born, tell him to go **** himself, leave, and make ur own desision. The only reason you would need to worry about a paternity test is if you were going for child support. the reason my baby was adopted was because i felt i couldnt protect her from him and his family, i could stand my own ground, but i didnt want to get her involved in it
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| Kara J | Posted: Jan 23, 2005 12:20:48 PM
Hi Kara.... It's Kara...LOL I'm soooo sorry you are in this position. It sounds as if though you are a really great mom to your son. I too have a son that is 2 1/2 years old. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and if you would like to have someone to talk to, you can e-mail me and I will help you out in any way possible.
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| Jeff and Teresa | Posted: Jan 22, 2005 12:57:38 PM
We will keep you in our prayers and hope you find the answer you are looking for on whether to keep your new little one growing inside of you or place him/her for adoption to be loved and raised by a deserving family. You sound like a great mother to your son and for the little one growing inside of you. We pray you find your answers.
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| Erica | Posted: Jan 21, 2005 10:39:25 AM
I will keep you and your children in my prayers. It sounds like you are a good mother to your son, so I know that with prayer and thought you will make the best decsion possible for your baby.
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| Kara | Posted: Jan 20, 2005 11:25:22 AM
My name is Kara I'm 19 20 in june I already have a 2 1/2 little boy named Alexander. For the forst two years of his life his father wasn't in our lifes..we jus got back together last year around may....I am now 3 weeks late on my ....you know..and I have wanted to leave him for quite some time but I have no where to go and I gave uo my job so i could stay home while he works..Hes abusive sometimes both mentally and physicaly...I know for a fact he wouldnt sign the papers but at the same time he doesnt think he is the father..which he thought about Alex till he got the results back..I'm not that kind of girl..but I want to put this child up for adoption because I cant see my self giving both children a good life .I love my son I would be dead or in jail if it wasnt for him he turned my life around but this baby i may have inside of me will not have the same great life as my son if i keep it and i just want to know what others think i should do....I want this baby to have a good life with a family who cant have childer and are able to give it everything and more...as i want to be able tokeep doing that for my son...
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