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TOPIC: i need information on why people give up their kids for adoption for my 8th grade postion paper!!!
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| Dawn | Posted: Feb 11, 2005 11:46:39 AM Hi there. I am a mother who has adopted 2 children. We were fortunate enough to be with them from the first few minutes of birth. My son's birthmother was 21, met a man on the internet and the relationship didn't last any longer than a week or two. She already had a 2 year old and knew that she couldn't take care of a 2nd child, financially or physically. From what we were told by our lawyers, she wanted to just put this behind her and move on with her life. She didn't want to see or know what they baby was when it was born. They just whisked him off to the nursery where we first met him. He wasn't any more than 1 minute old. He hasn't been out of our site since. As for our daughter, she is now 4 months old. This situation is different. The birthmother actually wanted to meet us. We were told to go to the hospital since she was in labor. We heard that the baby was born and that the birthmother wanted to meet us. We were scared since we hadn't been in this situation the first time. She was a 29 and such a wonderful. We talked to her over the next few days since she had to stay in the hospital from her C-section. I got to know a lot about her. She only made $7/hr, lived in a friends 18' camper on their grandfathers property. She said that she couldn't fit any baby things in there at all and could afford her so she knew that in order for her to have any type of a quality life, she'd need to be adopted out. The baby spent half the time with her and the other half with us while we waited for her to be discharged. The hospital gave me a small room to sleep in for the week so that we could be close to the baby. What I saw was a mother who truly loved her child. She kissed her, hugged her, and was so strong through the whole thing. When it came time to give her to us, she finally broke down and cried. But she knew she'd be safe with us. I personally think that any woman who gives her child up for adoption has made a very brave decision. I have so much respect for someone who can actually realize that their child would be better of with someone else. I don't think that they love the child any less, but that they love them so much, they aren't selfish and they know what's best for the child. Good luck wth your report and best wishes on moving to the 9th grade. What a great subject to write about. God Bless. Dawn | ||
| Michelle | Posted: Feb 07, 2005 11:55:17 AM My name is Michelle and I am a birth mother who placed my son for adoption when I was 17 years old. Some reasons that I chose adoption are because financially I could not take care of my son. I was still in high school and the birth father was also therefore neither of us could make enough money to support him and provide him with all the things that he needs and deserves. I also chose adoption because I wanted my son to have both a stable mother and father figure in his life. The birth father in my situation was not going to be able to be there as much as my son would have needed him. I also was not going to be able to spend a lot of time with him since I would be trying to go to school and work in order to care for him. It was not going to be fair to my son to try and raise him when I knew there were families out there who could not have children who had the time and financialy stability to provide for a child. I love my sons adoptive family and I am so glad that he is happy. It was the most difficult decision I have ever had to make but my son is happy and has more in life than I could have ever given him and that makes it all worth it to me. Thank you for your time | ||
| ashley | Posted: Feb 03, 2005 03:20:55 PM hi, im ashley and im in the 8th grade. im am starting my postition paper. I want it to be very intriguing and i would lke to receive a goood grade..considering the fact if i dont i dont go onto 9th grade. I ve been interested in the topic of adoption and was wondering what the reasons for why people give up their baby or kid for adoption,,and how they felt afterwards. i would really appreciate it if someone or many people could help me. thank you so much! luv ashley | ||
