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TOPIC: Will my baby be adoptable if s/he isn't healthy?
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| brend | Posted: Mar 29, 2005 08:08:46 PM Ihope that every thing will be fine. i cant begin to understand how you must feel. hopefully you will have a healthy baby, but if not there are a lot of loving couples who would give your child the love and care it needs. we are trying to adopt. god bless | ||
| Sara | Posted: Mar 20, 2005 02:20:49 PM I am a birthmother from americanadoptions, and your story sounds alot like mine in the beginning, there are plenty of adoptive familys out there just happy to be able to have a child, they think of it just as any mother would, that no matter what the condition, they will do anything in their power to fix what problem their child may have. i delivered a beautiful baby boy that was perfectly fine and made the same mistakes you speak of- not saying it can't happen, but don't worry that no one will adopt because of it | ||
| Aline (Birthmother) | Posted: Mar 15, 2005 07:35:55 PM I understand your concerns because I to have given birth to a child that now is with an adoptive family that was willing to open their hearts and their home to the son I did so wrong. I smoked a pack a day, used cocaine and marijuana all while I was pregnant with him. He was born one week early, and considering that he weighed 8 lbs. 15 ozs. at birth, its easy to see why. About 24 hours after his birth the complications that would plague his early life began to show up: Inability to swallow effectively, inability to suck effectively. At 3 months of age he was hospitalized with bacterial pnumonia (I don't think that is the correct spelling) caused by him swallowing formula and it ending up in his lungs. This was eventually cured by the surgical implantation of a feeding tube in to his stomach. I understand that chances are pretty good that he had the tube permanently removed around the time he was two. I don't know when he was adopted, all I do know is the family lives in another state. In my mind they are angels who took in the angel I did so wrong. Even though I learned that most of his problems were due to genetic issues, I can't get passed what I did during my pregnancy with him. Remain strong and remain postive and remember this: Somewhere out there is a little boy named Kenneth whom I thought would be a ward of the state until he was 18. To the adoptive family I say thank you for proving me wrong. | ||
| Patty & David (Adoptive family in waiting) | Posted: Mar 06, 2005 07:27:22 PM Now that you know you are pregnant and that you will be giving this child the gift of life, it sounds like you are embracing the responsibility to treat your body well and stop drinking and smoking. Your concern about the baby's health is evident in your email. I know there are many adoptive families who will support you through this and accept you and your child with open arms and hearts. The best thing you can do is be honest about your past history, and select a family that gives you a sense of peace about your decision. Everything happens for a reason, and there is definitely a reason that you were 5 days beyond the cut off for having an abortion. I'm sure that you will learn alot from this experience, as will the lucky family that you choose to raise your child. If you would like to find out more about David and I, please contact american adoptions to find out more about us. | ||
| Virginia Henry | Posted: Mar 04, 2005 01:56:10 PM Hi, I read your message and how concerned you are for your baby. Since you have been smoking & drinking, maybe you should have your doctor do an ultrasound to see if it has effected your baby's health. Smoking will affect the birthweight of the baby and try not drinking for the rest of your pregnancy. I'm sure a lot of mothers drink and don't even realize they are pregnant. The answer to your question is Yes, there are plenty of adoptive parents who would adopt your baby including ourselves. I wish you the best of luck and know that your baby will be raised by a loving and caring family no matter what. | ||
| Kara J | Posted: Mar 03, 2005 04:51:00 PM Just wanted to maybe send a comforting thought your way.... Many people would be more than willing to give your baby a wonderful loving home... Fetal alcohol syndrome could be one effect of the drinking, but I'm not really familiar with the specifics of this syndrome. I'm an adoptive mom and and our son's birthmother smoked approximately 2 packs a day... the typical effect of smoking while pregnant is that you may deliver early and the babies are typically a low birth weight. They also are predeposed to having asthma, but usually out grow it... My son was born 6 weeks early, but weighed 5 lbs... 5 oz. This is a fairly large baby to be that early. It all just depends. If I can be of assistance to you or help to answer any more questions, please feel free to contact me.... I wish you the very best of luck.... and please don't fret... my husband and I, along with countless other couples, have and would be more than willing to adopt a little one who had been exposed Love and hugs to you! ...Kara | ||
| chloe | Posted: Mar 03, 2005 04:32:31 PM dear birthmom, your baby will find the wonderful loving home that you want for your her or him. despite your past unhealthy habits infants are very strong and your baby has a good chance of having no problems at all. the people here at american adoptions are wonderful! call them | ||
| Birthmom needing help | Posted: Mar 03, 2005 02:53:15 PM I suspected I was pregnant in Nov. '04, when my periods stopped- when I found out for sure in Dec. 0'4, my bf & I decided abortion was our best option- so I kept drinking, smoking & never saw a Dr. for prenatal. 3 wks ago was my appt. for the abortion (LONG story why- would've been earlier if poss.) The ultrasound showed I was (shockingly) 24 wks. 5days along- 5 days over the legal abortion limit. I didn't even look pregnant. Now I'm looking to place my baby with parents who can support & care for it (I wish I could)... but who will adopt a child who was carried by a woman that drank & smoked through most of the pregnancy? How likely is it my baby will have defects, and what kind? If I'd known the child would be born, Id've quit ASAP, believe me- but it can't be helped now. I was smoking appx. 1 1/2 packs per week, and drinking btwn. 5-10 alch. bev.'s per week, if that helps determine an answer. Please... can anyone answer these questions at all? | ||
