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BOARD: Topics of Interest for Adoptive Families » Other Topics for Adoptive Parents
TOPIC: Waiting Couples Chat
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| Kerri | Posted: Jun 04, 2007 11:16:29 AM Adrienne~ I am soooooo excited for you!!! What a nice short match. That is how it was with our first match......... we had 3 weeks to get ready. Loved it!! I can't wait to hear all of the details. CONGRATULATIONS!!! | ||
| Whitney | Posted: Jun 04, 2007 09:48:39 AM Adrienne, I have a question I hope you do not mind me asking. From searching profiles, you all are open to races other than just 100% caucasian. Is this baby you have been matched with 100% caucasian or some mix? We went with caucasian the 1st time because they said 90% of the Trad I/II are that. We were thinking about being more open and wondering if it will help. | ||
| Whitney | Posted: Jun 04, 2007 08:14:20 AM Adrienne - congratulations! That is so awesome! We had 3 months notice, but I think it would be nice to have a much shorter really. Good luck getting everything ready! June 9 is our daughter's birthday! Keep us posted! | ||
| Lisa | Posted: Jun 04, 2007 07:46:43 AM Good Morning Ladies, It is a wet Monday here in NJ. I do have to say that we need the rain so I am not complaining. Congratulations Adrienne!! You must be bouncing off the walls! Do you have to travel far? Please keep us posted with your progress. We are still waiting... Hopefully not much longer. I hope that everyone has a great week and that Adrienne has triggered the good news train and a few others can jump on it. | ||
| Adrienne | Posted: Jun 01, 2007 04:58:00 PM Hi everyone!!! We received "the call" today!! I'm just bursting with excitement right now!! I can't believe we have a match. I've been waiting and hoping for that call so badly and then when it came I wasn't able to answer the phone. Another company just bought the one I work for 2 weeks ago and I was at the new office training and my cell kept ringing but I wasn't able to get to it. When I finally returned to my office, Kelli finally got ahold of me. Our birth mother is due on June 9th. Yikes, a week away! I know we'll be scrambling like crazy now. We are so thrilled!! I'm sending good luck wishes to all of you still waiting for the call. Adrienne | ||
| Whitney | Posted: May 31, 2007 10:08:34 AM I do wonder if things slow down, but then every week it seems there are a few couples that become marked as complete, so it is happening for others. We have been waiting so long I don't really expect the call to come. Every week with completed adoptions, there are new families added. I know they like to make sure the BM has plenty of profiles to look at, but you think they could not take so many so the ones waiting a while have a better chance. They do show older ones first, but they see the new ones too if they meet the criteria. | ||
| Whitney | Posted: May 31, 2007 09:12:20 AM I am good Lisa - thanks! We are about settled in and closed on our other house yesterday which was a big relief! We just have small things left until we start on the unfinished basement, which will be a while. It is hot here in SC too, over 90 I think. I don't mid, I hate the cold weather. I hope everyone is well and someone gets a call soon. Last night we put the crib mattress back in the nursery and set up the crib since Kaitlin is now in a twin bed. It looks nice and ready! I think it helps prepare her somewhat that it will be for her baby brother or sister. We hope to get our profile changes ready to send in the weekend. Trish - hope to hear all about your experience soon! How is your baby boy? | ||
| michelle | Posted: May 31, 2007 09:02:22 AM still waiting.....do you ever get the feeling the phone is never going to ring?blah! of course i hope in my heart that this does not happen. but things seem to be moving so slow even for the other couples. are there times when things slow down? you know like the real estate market? is there a best time to adopt? | ||
| Lisa | Posted: May 31, 2007 07:34:13 AM Good Morning Ladies! Welcome Becca & Georgia. You have both found a great support group of women in this forum. They have all truly helped get me throught the last 9 months. AA has been wonderful. DH and I are so happy that we chose them. I hope that everyone had a great Memorial Day weekend. We were busy. The hot weather is here in NJ. Today it is supposed to be in the 90's. I am not complaining. How are you doing Whitney? Are you settled in the new house? Have a great day everyone!!! | ||
| michelle | Posted: May 30, 2007 09:12:49 PM welcome georgia. we are very happy with aa also. we are in the assisted agency program also. kerri- we are in south west fl below tampa. | ||
| Whitney | Posted: May 29, 2007 12:58:50 PM Welcome Georgia and Becca! Hope all had a great weekend. Ours would have been better if Kaitlin did not have strep throat. She felt so bad, bless her heart. She is about back to her old self today. Just hope we don't get it. Becca, to answer your questions. We used AA with our first adoption and loved them! I would not change a thing, and if I could go back and have all the biological kids I wanted or have Kaitlin, I would want Kaitlin. I love her so much and I know I could not love a bio. child anymore than I do her. The whole process was wonderful and a gift from God. His plan was for us to adopt Kaitlin before she was conceived and it is such a special process. The worst aspect of adoption can be the wait, but AA seems to have the shortest wait of any agency we checked with. There were 2 more families removed today as successful adoptions, which makes me happy for them and sad we are still waiting after a year. Good luck with everything! | ||
| Adrienne | Posted: May 29, 2007 08:46:36 AM Hello everybody! Welcome Georgia! I hope everyone had a great Memorial day weekend. We did. We went out of town and visited some friends. It was nice to get away and stay extra busy. It has definitely helped the time go quickly. I love that the weather has been so nice. Hopefully the warmer weather will keep us all occupied until we all get calls. | ||
| Becca | Posted: May 25, 2007 02:04:51 PM Hi, I'm in between two IVF cycles and am thinking about starting the adoption process with AA. I've visited this site for years now but we wanted to try more infertility treatments before looking into adoption. I think the time is almost here to get this ball rolling finally. Those of you that are waiting now, would you say that your experience has been positive so far? And those that have an adopted child, congrats and how long was that process? Would you recommend AA? Thanks, Becca | ||
| Georgia | Posted: May 24, 2007 10:31:19 AM Hello, I am Georgia from North Carolina. We are almost done with our homestudy and like Angel, just waiting for a chance to review it. We sent in our paperwork and APQ to AA last Wednesday and are waiting for them to call to discuss the APQ. We should be hearing from the Graphics company about our profile as well by this coming Wednesday - they should be sending our proof and we should be officially active by the end of next week or sooner. We are adopting a bi-racial baby and everyone that we have spoken to that has done so through this agency has said it happens fairly quickly (adopting a bi-racial baby). So, we have begun getting the nursery ready, picking up baby items, etc. We have a bioloigical daughter that will be 4 in September! She is so excited about being a big sister! We are totally psyched and cannot wait to have a new baby in the family! I am trying to stock pile my sleep! :-) Hope everyone is well! Cheers! | ||
| Kerri | Posted: May 23, 2007 11:02:55 AM Congrats to all you new moms!!! It is so much fun!!! To all of you waiting......... just keep the faith. Michelle~ we live in FL too........ what part of the state are you in? That little Gabe is too cute!! Smiles, Kerri | ||
| Lisa | Posted: May 23, 2007 09:32:33 AM Congratulations Trish!!! I see that your profile has been moved to the completed adoptions sections. That is wonderful!! It just made my day!! We can't wait to hear all of the details about your precious son. Congratulations & Best Wishes!!!! | ||
| Anonymous | Posted: May 22, 2007 09:13:39 PM things i am doing to pass the time.... spend as much time with my beautiful son (enjoying one for now!) taking a class , i have always wanted to be an architect. selling things on ebay , thinking i am fundraising (mostly wasteing time) Going to new orleans for the week!!! We have not been there since before Katrina. We were there during Hurricane Francis, we couldnt get back to FL. THis was before we adopted Gabe. I can't wait to get there!!! Maybe this will be the start of a tradition. We go to New Orleans, Have a hurricane , Adopt a baby!! All i know is sometimes i feel very anxious. At first I would look at the website , scoping the competition, wondering who is in what program. I think it is just a phase. I am slowly getting past that. But you still wonder what is going on behind the web pages!!! hope everyone has a peaceful week. Hope someone gets a call. Warmest REgards and Best of Luck Michelle | ||
| Lisa | Posted: May 22, 2007 09:38:48 AM Good Morning Ladies, Thank you Jenn for your words of wisdom. I need them right now. DH and I made some changes to our profile this weekend. We are hoping that it will help. It can't hurt. It makes us feel like we are doing something. I know that the "perfect" situation is out there for us, but I am just getting anxious. We are now at 8 3/4 months in the T2 program. I am so happy to hear that Hailey is absolutely perfect! I know that you and Daymond are enjoying every minute of it. You deserve it!! I hope that you had a wonderful 1st Mother's Day. Take care & have a great day!! | ||
| Whitney | Posted: May 22, 2007 09:28:23 AM Thanks Jenn - good to hear others who went throught the same waiting worries. We did increase our budget to Trad. II and we made a couple of very minor Profile changes. We are getting ready to update the section where we live with our new house, so we may update some of the pictures as well. Hope all is going well for everyone. Not much posting this week. | ||
| Jenn | Posted: May 21, 2007 11:21:43 AM Hello everyone! I'm sure Mother's Day was particularly hard for those still waiting -- hang in there. I also have to echo the sentiments of others here who have received their little bundle of joy ... The wait was difficult at first, got easier, then got difficult again near the end. I felt nearly at wit's end by the time we finally got the call. We waited nearly a year in the T2 program and we were asking the same questions that you are, Whitney. I was constantly over-analyzing our profile, we made two changes to our profile, increased our budget slightly during the wait, and I spent way too much time looking at "the competition." We began to feel like the bottom of the barrel, but only after the fact can you look back and feel good about the wait. Once you receive YOUR baby, it really does all seem to make sense and you wouldn't have it any other way. The long months of waiting instantly evaporate. I know that it is so hard to believe and that it doesn't really help with the here and now anxiety of the wait, but there truly is light at the end of the tunnel. It really is just like everyone says ... we can't imagine any other baby being ours -- Hailey is perfect for us. It really does seem meant to be. She's now 25 days old and an absolute joy -- more so every day. We couldn't possibly adore her more. Hang in there everyone!! And Happy (belated) Mother's Day to all of you proud new Mommies! | ||
| Lisa | Posted: May 21, 2007 07:59:00 AM Good Morning Ladies, I hope that everyone had a great weekend. I can't believe that this weekend coming up is Memorial Day! Hopefully the weather will be nice so that everyone can get outside and enjoy some fresh air. Trish, Any news??? We are all dying to know. You are in our thoughts and prayers and we hope that everything is going smoothly for you and Jim. Please let us know. | ||
| Whitney | Posted: May 17, 2007 12:02:03 PM Wendy - I agree about the right time and situation, so I guess I should have more patience right now. With our first adoption we did get a call asking if they could show our profile to a BM because we matched except for one thing. She would get to see ours if she did not like the 2 already sent to her. Well she did not pick us and about a month later we got the call we had been picked and that is how we got Kaitlin. Her BM picked us partly because my brother was adopted and she wanted a family who would be open about it. I would not have wanted it to happen any other way, whihc was clearly God's way. Looking forward to the weekend. Saturday is our 6th wedding anniversary and Kaitlin is going to her Nana's so we can go out just the two of us. Hope you all are doing well and get the call soon! Hope all the mommies are enjoying their little ones. | ||
| Lisa | Posted: May 15, 2007 12:02:23 PM Wendy, Thank you for your wonderful words of encouragement. I need them. Your story is truly inspirational. I know in my heart that there is a perfect situation out there for us. I just want it to be now. We have been waiting a little over 8 months. I am trying to keep myself busy. I am glad that summer is right around the corner. Trish, Any news? I keep checking and nothing... Please keep us posted. | ||
| Wendy | Posted: May 15, 2007 09:31:50 AM One more thing I wanted to share - after we were in our match I started figuring up when our profile would have been shown to our birthmom. I realized that it was just two weeks after we had made a small budget adjustment or we would have never been shown to her. When we met her at the birth she shared with us that she had received 52 profiles from American and we were the only ones that stood out to her. She apparently met almost every active couples APQ and we had waited almost two years!! I am sure those of you that have already been through this once have a similar story, but I just wanted to share that for those of you going through this the first time. When it is meant to be it will be!!! I know that is easier to say than to really believe all of the time, but it is so true!! | ||
