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BOARD: Adoptee Forum » Other Topics for Adoptees.

TOPIC: FINDING MY BIRTH FAMILY

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Caroline	Posted: Apr 04, 2004 01:20:56 PM Vicky, Please don't give up I am a reunited adoptee who was born in 1955 and found my birth family back in 1994. And I just recently found my last sibbling in April of 2003, best of luck to you !
vicky	Posted: Feb 10, 2004 07:11:12 PM I am looking for my sister that was adopted at birth. She was born on July 27,1959 in Tehama County Ca. I think she was registered like this Smith,Female,Tehama. The birth mother would have been Patricia Smith. I have been looking for nearly 20 years. Hopefully this message will help. I was also told that her first name was Bonnie Lee.
Abigail	Posted: Nov 16, 2003 08:23:14 PM i am trying to find my birth father and my siblings. I am the daughter or Ruthie Miller who died in 1995. I wa sborn March 18, 1990. I have two younger siblings and two older. My fathers name is Brian. I was born in Tennesse.

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The Role Flexibility Plays in Adoption

When pursing adoption, it is best that you and your spouse examine just how flexible you are regarding potential adoption situations vs. how long you are willing to wait for "the call."

Adoption is a personal decision and it becomes even more personal when considering what types of adoption and adoption situations you and your spouse are open to. While some couples are open to adopting a child of a different race or nationality than themselves, others find themselves uneasy with that prospect. Instead, many couples prefer to limit their adoption parameters, such as only being open to one race or are not willing to consider any adoption situations where the birth mother may have a certain medical or drug use history.

While this adoption journey is yours, it is also important to carefully step back and consider all aspects of your adoption, weighing what is most important to you and your spouse against other aspects that may not seem so important, after all. While it is perfectly OK to be strict in your adoption preferences, you should also recognize that this could impact your wait time. Couples who are stricter in their adoption preferences typically experience a longer wait time than those who are more open to various situations. For instance, if you and your spouse are only comfortable with adopting Caucasian newborn domestically whose birth mother reported no drug usage and a limited medical history, than you will likely endure a longer wait. However, if you are open to adopting an African-American child, or a child whose mother may have reported light drug use during her pregnancy, then you will likely experience a shorter wait. The same also applies to international adoptions -- if you are very strict in your preferences, you may wait longer for a referral that meets your parameters.

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BOARD: Adoptee Forum » Other Topics for Adoptees.TOPIC: FINDING MY BIRTH FAMILY

The Role Flexibility Plays in Adoption

BOARD: Adoptee Forum » Other Topics for Adoptees.

TOPIC: FINDING MY BIRTH FAMILY