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TOPIC: Second marriage and adoption

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AmyPosted: Jul 25, 2005 03:39:50 PM
I am married to a man who had been married before and who has a 14 year old daughter from that marriage. When we married I felt certain I didn't want to have children but after 5 years of marriage now I am reconsidering it, the problem is we cannot have children together. I really have questioned whether I really want to have a child or just think about it because I cannot. He says he would but adopt but I am hesitant because of our age difference, I am 34 and he is 44, and the fact that we do have issues to deal with with his ex-wife and issues from his previous marriage with his present child. Life could get more complicated adding another child in the situation but at the same time I wonder if it would be good for us to share a child together. I do realize how much family means to me, enjoy my nephews, and wonder if I truly am missing out on something special. We are happily married and I can see pros and cons to having a child. Do you have any insights or suggestions that might help us with a decision about whether to adopt?



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