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BOARD: Adoptee Forum » Adopted Person's Legal Issues

TOPIC: Looking For Birth Parents.....

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Carolyn	Posted: Jun 05, 2006 03:50:54 PM I would suggest doing seaches via the internet white pages, match last names, and call them. I have done that to find members of my family that I did not know before. Best of luck to you.
Ralph Eugene Garnes Jr.	Posted: Feb 07, 2006 11:26:54 AM I am looking for my biological parents. I was born in Ironton, Ohio on July 30, 1973. I was adopted as an infant by Ralph E. and Kathryn Garnes of Gallipolis, Ohio. I am black and am wanting to find out my health history and find out who my parents, why I was put up for adoption.
Carol	Posted: Dec 17, 2005 05:37:47 PM I was born on July 25th, 1983. I was adopted, alog with two of my younger brothers, when I was four or five. I know I have atleast one other younger brother. I want to search for my parents but don't know exactly how to start. I know that I was born in Kansas City, Mo. I know that the state took us into custody. I know my birth parents names.... Nancy and Gary Lee Martz.

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What About My Responsibilities as the Father?

“This was by far the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.”

Shawn, Birth Father

When it comes to dealing with an unexpected pregnancy, much of the compassion, sympathy and focus is placed on the woman. But what about the father?

As the father of the baby, you too are more than likely dealing with a rollercoaster of emotions. Much like the emotions being experienced by the mother, you are also likely to experience shock, denial, anger, sadness and other feelings. Many fathers express there is often a state of confusion on how to put into words what they are truly feeling. Much of the time feelings of embarrassment and a loss of control are expressed by the birth father.

However, many men also feel that by agreeing to place the baby for adoption that they are somehow not living up to their responsibilities, or are not being “man enough.” Many men also have a strong sense of pride and struggle accepting the fact that they cannot give their baby the life that an adoptive family can. Many find it difficult to understand the reasons the birth mother is choosing an adoption plan. Others incorrectly believe the birth mother is choosing adoption to get back at them if the relationship is not a friendly one. Many fear others are looking at them as somehow failing their child, family and friends, or that they are taking the “easy way out.”

No matter what your reasons are for struggling with an adoption decision for your child, the truth is that adoption is anything but the “easy way out,” nor is it a choice made by a man who is not living up to his responsibilities. Rather, it is very much the opposite. Supporting the adoption of your child is one of the most responsible, unselfish things a father can do. It is a choice that means you care so much for your child that you are willing to give them a better life than you and the birth mother can give them right now.

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BOARD: Adoptee Forum » Adopted Person's Legal IssuesTOPIC: Looking For Birth Parents.....

What About My Responsibilities as the Father?

BOARD: Adoptee Forum » Adopted Person's Legal Issues

TOPIC: Looking For Birth Parents.....