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TOPIC: Daughters vs Sons wanting to find birth parents

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LisaPosted: Jan 25, 2006 11:08:01 PM
Hi...it has been my experience with many adult friends and my own brother (we were all adopted as babies in the 60's) that men/boys are less interested in finding their birth parents. My brother had NO interest at all, nor did several of my adult friends who were male and had been adopted. Please don't fear rejection from your adopted child. Finding birth parents is just like putting a piece of the puzzle together. My mom and dad supported me 100% (infact it was my mom who insisted I register to see if there would be a match) - and it just enforce to me how awesome they really are! I was matched with both my birth parents when I was 21 - believe it or not, they were DATING each other again! Meeting them was a great experience and I was able to find out important medical information that was helpful, especially when I had kids of my own. I also really came to see (not that I ever had any doubt) that my adoptive parents were the biggest blessing in my life, and giving me up for adoption was the kindest, most self-less thing my birth mother (at 16) could have ever have done. Give your child lots of love, a stable homelife and if he ever wants to find out who his adoptive parents are, please do the right thing and be supportive. You won't lose your child...but it's another opportunity to show them, just one more time, how much you really do care about him and his well-being. Finding birth parents isn't about replacing adoptive parents, it's just about putting information about who you are and how you came to be in place.

Angela ParisiPosted: Jan 21, 2006 09:42:22 PM
I just have a question. I am afraid of rejection from my adopted child, and was wondering if it is more common for boys to NOT be as interested in finding their birth mother. Is this more common?



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