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BOARD: Topics of Interest for Adoptive Families » Other Topics for Adoptive Parents
TOPIC: waiting couple chat
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| Whitney | Posted: May 22, 2006 04:59:57 PM We were officially active with 9 Months Adoption agency (an AA sister agency in April 2003. We switched over to AA that August and were matched with a birth mother in March 2004. So we waited about 7 months with AA. It was a wonderful experience. We were lucky to have an awesome birth mother. We also had plenty of help from the AA staff. We never thought about looking for another agency for our second adoption because the experience was so much more than we expected. We felt comfortable with them the whole time. They always answered our questions and we knew we could call anytime with more. | ||
| Jen | Posted: May 22, 2006 03:36:50 PM Whitney, I see this is going to be your 2nd adoption. How long did you have to wait for this first one and how was your first experience with AA? Did you feel comfortable with them? Thanks. | ||
| Whitney | Posted: May 16, 2006 08:20:35 PM Jen - it will happen, there is no "if" but only "when". The wait can be hard, but it is worth it! | ||
| Jen | Posted: May 16, 2006 03:30:32 PM Hi everyone.. I am new here. My husband & I just got activated a month ago tomorrow. Our profile is under Dale & Jen . Very anxious about the process and if & when we will be getting that call. I have tons of question to ask and don't know where to begin. | ||
| Wendy | Posted: May 16, 2006 01:19:55 PM April, I am so excited for you! Keep us updated : ) Whitney, You have a great profile! We have not had internet service for almost two weeks : ( Problems with the ISP, hopefully we will soon get it resolved. | ||
| Whitney | Posted: May 15, 2006 05:50:33 PM That is wonderful news April! It is always encouraging to me to hear that a couple has been matched! It lets us know that it will happen. Hope it all goes great! | ||
| Heather B. | Posted: May 15, 2006 11:03:48 AM April, Sean and I are so excited for you and your family! Best wishes on the impending birth. Heather B. | ||
| April | Posted: May 12, 2006 10:27:16 PM Hi everyone! I just wanted to share our wonderful news! We got a call out of the blue this past Wednesday when we were getting ready for Church and we were told about a birthmother that was going to possibly have a C-Section the next day and they wanted us to have a conference call with her! Well, I talked with her and her sister-in-law the next morning for an hour and the social worker called me back within 10 minutes and said that she wanted us to be the family for her baby! Well, she went to the doctor and they want her to maybe break her water on her own. She has another doctors appointment this next Wednesday and they are hopefully going to go ahead and give her a C-Section then if she doesn't go into labor before then! (She had a C-Section with her 2 other children so she will have one with this baby as well) We are having a baby BOY! We live in Tennessee and he is being born in Miami, FL! I am so excited and can't wait to lay eyes on him and hold him! I hope everyone is doing great! I know that there haven't been any new posts on here in a few weeks. I will keep you guys updated and let you know when Jonathan Jay arrives!!! Thank you guys for being so supportive! I pray that all of you are matched very soon! April :) | ||
| v | Posted: Apr 27, 2006 09:28:36 PM Whitney I saw your profile! What a cute family!!! We are anxiously awaiting our profile on the site too. I am thinking sometime next week. | ||
| Heather (starter of the chat) | Posted: Apr 27, 2006 08:48:28 PM Hi Ladies! I am so excited for all of you! When people started responding to this chat, we had already been waiting 6 months! This is the best to help you through it. After DP scanned the waiting families, (we all get addicted to that) , I scanned too. There are only 2 couples still waiting, who were there before us, and we were initially activated almost 18 months ago. I do not have a lot of computer time now, but this really gets in your blood, and it is nice to come back to visit. It is great to have others "walk the road with you". Best Wishes to all of you and I hope to visit again. P.S. Our family update: Allison loves her little brother Daniel and we are excited to have him dedicated on Mother's day. His finalization in court will be sometime in June. We get to go back to the NICU for his 6th month check - up and visit. Daniel is almost 16 pounds now and is a very curious, bouncing baby boy. :) Heather | ||
| Wendy | Posted: Apr 25, 2006 02:46:01 PM Heather B. I am so sorry!! That has to be frustrating beyond words. Whitney, What a perfect experience. I am sure it was amazing to be there for the birth. I am excited about seeing your profile. Should be any day now, right? Kari, When we were first activated with American Adoptions they told us it's not IF you adopt, the only question is WHEN. I have tried to hang on to those words when I am really tired of waiting. I also keep reminding myself that things will work out the way they are meant to be, not always real encouraging - I know! What are you doing to pass the time? Any hobbies/projects to keep you busy? We built our house a little over a year ago and never finished the basement (rec room). We are just trying to stay busy with that and other house projects, landscaping etc. I know we will be so glad when we get our miracle that all those things are done and we can just sit and "play" baby : ) It WILL happen!!!! | ||
| Heather B. | Posted: Apr 25, 2006 01:52:48 PM Hello guys, No I am sorry to say we have not been matched yet, we have not even been activated yet. We have run into some medical problems that have kept us from having the money to get activated. But hopefully we will be ready come summer. I am really happy for those who have gotten to be active in the past few months. I hope my medical problems will clear up soon and Sean and I can finally say we're active too. Heather B. | ||
| Kari | Posted: Apr 24, 2006 11:26:12 PM Hi, we are new to this chat area. We have been activated for about 3 months now and in some ways it feels like an eternity!!!! Scared it will never happen but very hopeful at the same time. We already have a 6 year old son (biological) who is very anxious to have a baby in the family. This looks like a supportive place to visit!!! thanks. | ||
| Whitney | Posted: Apr 19, 2006 11:03:00 AM Hopefully our profile will be posted any day now. We will be Terry and Whitney. Our daughter was born almost 2 years ago. We met her birth mother about a month before the birth and it was a wonderful experience. We had a 17 hour drive and decided to leave a day before she was due to be induced. She went into labor a day early and we got the the hospital 2 hours before she was born. We got to hold her right after she was born. It was the best experience we could hope for and looking forward to a second child. | ||
| Jenn | Posted: Apr 19, 2006 10:34:57 AM Thanks, Wendy! I noticed that we haven't heard from Heather in awhile -- wonder if that means she's been matched. | ||
| Wendy | Posted: Apr 19, 2006 08:09:21 AM Jenn, What a great profile! Nice to finally "see" you. I hope you all have a short wait. I also noticed that our profiles are on the same page : ) Whitney, Cannot wait to see your profile. Let us know when it is available online. Would love to hear more about your first adoption experience! | ||
| Jenn | Posted: Apr 17, 2006 10:31:47 PM We're finally posted to the site! Yeah!!:) We were officially activated on the 4th but now it feels like there is tangible proof. | ||
| Whitney | Posted: Apr 17, 2006 02:33:40 PM Just wanted to say hi. We were just activated last week. It will be our second adoption with AA. | ||
| DP | Posted: Apr 13, 2006 02:42:07 PM Hi! I just wanted to let you guys know that I was just 'breezing' through the list of waiting families (like I used to do while we were waiting!!) and there were only about a dozen couples that I still recognized - and some of them had the 'Congratulations' message posted! So that means that since we were activated last July, there has been almost a complete 'turnover' of couples - and there were over 160 when we started. I thought that might be encouraging for those of you waiting right now. We finalized our Adoption on Friday, April 7th - a little over 3 months from when the baby was placed with us. It was/is an awesome feeling that we have completed the process - almost exactly 9 months from when we were activated!! Good Luck to you all - it is truly worth the wait - we hoped to start our family in 2001, so it has been quite a long journey for us; for those of you that don't have any children yet - get lots of sleep while you can - read any books that you have been wanting to read - watch any movies you have been wanting to see - go out to dinner with your husband - because when the baby arrives, those things will take a permanent backseat to your new little angel!! | ||
| April | Posted: Apr 10, 2006 03:39:31 PM Hi Carolyn! I'm glad that you decided to join our chat! My husband and I have been waiting for 4 1/2 months now so I'm right there with ya! Do you have any other children? Are you guys adopting a specific race/sex baby? Just wanting to find out more about your adoption. This group is very supportive and friendly. You can ask us anthing and we will try to help with anything you want to talk about. This is my first time to adopt so it is all new to me! I feel that I learn something new everyday and everyday I hope that my anticiption and anxiety about the wait will get a little easier! :) Well, I hope to hear back from you soon! | ||
| Jenn | Posted: Apr 07, 2006 11:42:18 AM Hi Carolyn, welcome! Are you activated w/ AA or another agency? Just remember ... every day you're one day closer to your adoption!:) That's what I keep thinking. I am ridiculously optimistic and every time the phone rings, I hold my breath just a little, wondering if it will be AA when I pick up. No luck so far but it's only been a few days.;) | ||
| carolyn | Posted: Apr 05, 2006 06:16:28 PM I am new to this site, and the adoption process. I feel like it has been forever but in reality it has only been 4 months since the certification. | ||
| Jenn | Posted: Apr 05, 2006 05:52:05 PM Thanks everyone! We were officially activated on Tuesday, so hopefully our profile will be online by next Tuesday. We'll be Daymond & Jenn -- I'm confident we'll be the only Daymond & Jenn so you won't be able to miss us!:) We've been really busy the last few days. I've had training for work in another state, which happens to be closer to my husband's office, so we both stayed in the hotel for 3 nights. I couldn't log onto the internet during the training, which was actually a blessing b/c it really kept my mind off the adoption. We're home now so I'm sure it will be more on my brain again. Wendy, what a horrible experience you had! You poor thing! I too am focusing on losing weight. I gained weight over the holidays and I know what you mean about all of a sudden clothes don't fit. Ugh, I hate that!!! People think I'm crazy when I complain b/c I weigh almost 105 pounds, but I am REALLY petite so that's actually a lot of weight for me. Since we're taking a trip in mid-May, my goal is to lose about 10 pounds by then. The trip is also helping to take some of my focus. Not sure what I'll do to keep busy when that's over. Keeping my fingers crossed that we'll get picked quick though.;) | ||
| April | Posted: Apr 05, 2006 12:08:03 PM CONGRATS JENN!!! Thank you so much Wendy, I really hope that your wait will be over very soon.... I have been trying everything to focus on other things and to stay busy but I have really been struggling with doing that. I wish there was some magic way of making your brain forget about it for a while! I have decided as of yesterday that I am going to take this opportunity to focus on losing weight. I figure if I was pregnant I would be gaining weight (even more) right now so why not focus on getting to do the opposite before the baby comes. When I was pregnant with my son I had Toxemia which caused me to gain 100 lbs and when the doctors finally figured out something was wrong with me when I was gaining 12lbs a week!!! I weighed 270lbs!!!! when I went into to delivery him by emergency C-section. I was 18 years old and had to have an emergency hysterctamy to save my life because I was bleeding to death. Well, sorry I didn't mean to be depressing but my point is that I was left in terrible shape and after crying for probably 2 years straight from this terrible trauma! I finally picked myself back up and did whatever it took to get that weight off and I lost 128lbs! Well, over time I gained about 20 of those pounds back and then since getting married a year ago I have gained about 18lbs back! It's crazy how you eat things you would have never eaten before you got married because you don't want to get fat but your husband tells you oh you look great! So, you keep eating those things and it's like over night you can't fit into your clothes that you wore a few months ago! I know this is something that I can focus on and get excited about to get my mind off of the baby. I am focusing now on fiting into the clothes that I want to wear before the Summer gets here!!! Well, I look forward to hearing from you guys! April :) | ||
