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BOARD: Topics of Interest for Adoptive Families » Other Topics for Adoptive Parents
TOPIC: Am I wrong to adopt now that I am divorced?
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| Jill | Posted: Apr 24, 2006 10:53:53 AM There are so many loving couples out there trying to adopt a baby, that there is no shortage of 2-parent homes for healthy infants. To bring a baby into a single parent home when it could easily have a loving 2-parent home does not seem to me to be in the best interests of the baby. I am certain that you are a very loving and caring person, and would not wish to deny a baby a loving 2-parent home. Fortunately for you, however, there are many many older children who are not as easily placed in 2-parent homes, and you could be a savior for one of these children. Infants with medical conditions are also more difficult to place, so perhaps you would be willing to give a loving home to a baby that needs extra care. So to answer your question, I think it would be selfish for you to deny a baby the opportunity of having a loving 2-parent home, but not at all selfish, and in fact would be honorable, to adopt a child that would not otherwise be adopted at all. Best wishes to you in your honorable quest to care for children in need. | ||
| April | Posted: Apr 22, 2006 06:48:35 PM I have been in your shoes except my ex-husband didn't even want the child that we did have together and I had to have an emergency hysterectamy when I had my son and I have always wanted to have at least 3 children. Well, when I was married to my son's dad I always talked about adoption and he said there is no way he would raise and take care of someone else's child (What a jerk!). I diviorced him after he was unfaithful and I am now married to a wonderful christian man and we have been waiting now for 5 months to be matched for our baby through adoption. I feel that you should persue adopting that sweet baby girl. If you are financially an emotionally ready to take on another child then you should go for it! There are so many children that need a loving person to take care of them. From what I have read most birthmothers are looking for a loving couple or a single woman to take their baby. They seem to not want a single male to adopt their baby so I don't think you wouldn't have any problems with adoption. I hope this is helpful advice and I wish you all of the luck and success in your journey! | ||
| Anje | Posted: Apr 20, 2006 10:59:56 PM My husband and I sepersted and are now in the process of divorce after the birth of our 2 1/2 year old son we suffered infertility that was one of the reasons for our break up. I always wanted to adopt but he never wanted to and told me I was useless because I could not give him more of his own children so we are no more. I have boys 2 and 5 year old boys one from previous relationship. I always wanted girls (not that I would trade) and now that I am not involved with a man is it selfish or wrong to adopt a little girl? | ||
