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| Heather | Posted: Jul 21, 2006 11:09:55 AM
its her body and her right. keep in mind pressuring people to your beliefs when they have different beliefs can also be stressful and it sounds like she has enough stress as it is. making her feel like a bad person isnt going to help her out any. support her in whatever choice she makes
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| Mandi | Posted: Jul 05, 2006 10:59:45 PM
I would encourage her to receive some counseling in a place that specializes in unplanned pregnancies. They could help her decide what decision is best for her both short and long term. I went through this same thing with my sister a couple of months ago. She is in her third unplanned pregnancy and wanted to abort. My husband and I are looking to adopt, so we pleaded with her to at the very least look into the idea of either us or another family raising this precious baby. In the end she wasn't able to go through with the abortion and is now planning to parent. I believe that an abortion isn't the easy fix that one thinks it is going to be, but I also think it is the woman's choice. Please just convince her to at least talk to someone. Maybe she will decide in the end that she does want to raise this baby herself, or maybe she'll want to find a loving family for her precious gift. No matter what she decides it is her choice and the only thing you can do is be supportive. I hope everything works out for her. God bless.
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| Misty | Posted: Jul 05, 2006 08:37:17 PM
Try to let her know that there are so many families out there that would be loving parents to her child. My hubby and I are also looking to adopt a child and if your co-worker deceides that adoption is a something that she would like to concider we would be more than willing to have her make contact with us to learn more about us. -Misty
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| melissa | Posted: Jul 03, 2006 11:05:25 PM
Hi, my name is melissa. I'm sorry to hear about your friends choice. Myself - I never think abortion is the answer. So many loving families can't have children - my husband and I are one of them. My sister had an abortion. She and her husband had been married for about 6 months when they found out that they were expecting. A few months into it they found out that their baby boy had spinabifida (spelling?). My sister told me that they were going to have an abortion. I begged them not to and told them that my husband John and I would love to care for they baby. For their own reasons they continued with the abortion. No matter the circumstances, aborting a child is something that you will never get over. I realize that your friend has probably made her choice, but I'm begging you to do everything you can to change her mind. I firmly believe that God won't give you anything you can't handle. If she still feels she can't care for this child, remind her that there are so many families that would love to. My husband and I would love to. I'll tell you a little about us so that maybe you would let her know about us. John is 29 and a Texas State Trooper. He loves his job and can't see himself ever doing anything else. He graduated from the University of Texas at San Antonio with a degree in criminal justice. I am a recent graduate of Sam Houston State University with a BBA in accounting. I do not currently work. I am devoting my time to find a baby/child to adopt. We have been married for over 6 years and we own a home is a small Texas town. We are very close to our families. When we told them we had chosen to adopt, I couldn't tell who was more excited, us or them. We have 3 dogs - they are our babies and we LOVE to travel. I hope my story will help you talk to your friend. I wish you bath all the best.
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| James | Posted: Jul 02, 2006 02:31:43 AM
I work with a single mom, two kids from previous marriage. Is pregnant (unplanned) by 19 year old boyfriend. he wants abortion, I've encouraged her to go term and adopt out. She told me tonight she's decided to abort. I'm trying to relate the stories from college friends that had abortions and the emptiness that they felt. How do I get her to bless another family?
jh
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