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| Tonja | Posted: May 10, 2004 05:50:57 PM
Jami, If you need someone to chat with you may email me at TonjaKay26@aol.com
I have dealt with this sort of thing and would love to chat with you.
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| Daniel | Posted: May 08, 2004 01:09:10 AM
Hello. I was adopted and have the rare insight to know both my adoptive parents and my birthparents (actually by accident if you can believe it.) Anyway, I feel very lucky that I have TWO sets of parents that love me very much. I know that my birth parents were in no position to take care of me. On the other hand my adoptive parents had been trying to conceive for over 5 years. I had a childhood that just would not have been possible and I thank BOTH parents everyday for it all. I thank my birthparents for placing me in a safe, secure environment and for giving a child to my adoptive parents.
Strange as it might be, I am now in the same boat! My wife and I have also been trying for 5 years with no luck and thousands of dollars spent on fertility treatments with no promise of a baby, ever. Today, we decided to adopt and will be using American Adoptions. I just wanted to give you the perspective of an adopted kid. Now I'm grown up and I can't think of anything, anyone could do that would be more unselfish than what you are doing. You are giving your child a future AND you are going to make an adoptive mother and father happier than I can imagine. God Bless you!!!
Daniel
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| Cathy | Posted: Apr 29, 2004 12:18:31 PM
Jami, congrats on your pregnancy. We have adopted a son and want to adopt again. You can e-mail me with any questions you may have about adoption or if you need someone to chat with too. Goodluck on your search.
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| Diana | Posted: Apr 14, 2004 06:38:11 PM
Jami, It takes a wonderful birthmom to think so much of that little one,that you would rather have him/her in a better environment or upbringing than the one available. I am looking to adopt, please e-mail me. God bless you swearheart!!! God will be proud of you for thinking of that baby first!!! Diana
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| Wendy | Posted: Apr 07, 2004 09:58:47 PM
Hi Michelle, thanks for the email. I was actually posting to Jami with my email address and accidentally put in Michelle. However, I am pleased to meet you.
Wendy
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| Wendy | Posted: Apr 06, 2004 07:58:32 PM
Michelle, you can contact me at njsosbaby@aol.com.
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| Wendy | Posted: Apr 05, 2004 09:31:03 AM
Hi Jami,
I am an adoptee and an adoptive mom to a 2 1/2 year old boy. I am also a guest speaker for the Adopitve Parents Committee of Greater NY. I was placed in a closed agency adoption at birth and found my birthfamily at the age of 23. I had an awesome life as an adoptee and now my adopted family and birthfamily have become one. We are adopted are son through an open private adoption. Wendy
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| Michelle | Posted: Apr 02, 2004 07:44:36 PM
My address is actually michellew@adoptionspecialist.com
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| Michelle | Posted: Mar 31, 2004 04:30:12 PM
I understand that you are feeling as if you should be able to raise your child, but as guilty as you may feel it is not about what you think and feel but rather about what is best for your child. I placed my son for adoption 6 years ago and although it was a difficult decision and i did question whether i was making the "right" decision or not, he is happy and ultimately that is what i wanted for him. Adoption is about allowing a child to have a life that you can not provide them. It is difficult for a birth mother to admit to herself that she cannot care for and raise her own child. Sometimes those feelings present guilt. However, there is nothing to feel quilty about. Having the strength to realize what you want for your child and knowing that you can give them all of the opportunities that they deserve by placing them with a family is a very rewarding and wonderful feeling. Please feel free to respond to me as i am very willing to assist you and help you through this difficult time if you are needing some support and to talk to someone who has been in your shoes before. Take care and i hope to hear from you. You can email me at michelle@americanadoptions.com.
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| Jami | Posted: Mar 28, 2004 12:31:32 PM
I am placing my baby for adoption. So far I have felt nothing but awful about it. My feelings are if I can make the baby, I should be able to take care of it, but I know there's no way I can. How can I overcome this fear and know that I am doing the right thing??
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