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TOPIC: Will my child hate me if I place my child for adoption

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ashlynPosted: Apr 13, 2006 12:18:00 AM
your child will not hate you! if you want to give that child a better enviroment, life, etc. that you won't be able to give them, adoptin is perfect! you aren't doing this to hurt them, you're doing it out of love. you just have to explain that to your child. try an open adoption. this way, you will have visitation rights. much loves and the bestest of lucks! ashlyn

ChristinaPosted: Jun 11, 2005 02:41:17 PM
Why? do you want to put your children up for adoption. How old is your child?

MichelePosted: May 27, 2004 03:07:40 PM
No, no no no. God did not give us the spirit of fear. Remember that. I was given up for adoption. At times, when I was younger, I channeled my anger at my adoptive parents for the usual - don't do that or this - don't dress this way or act this way, etc..never did I blame my birth mother nor father. If anything, I felt as if I had an "out". Just pray the parents who adopted your child will be forthcoming. You've done your job - FOR WHATEVER REASON. Remember that, too! You've given - not only the child - but the parents a second chance at a family. Don't feel bad..you may have to look that child in the eye when they're 30 or so! (I plan on finding mine) And when you do..be the proud, strong woman you didn't even know you were being back then. That, my friend, is the way they have always thought you to be. More importantly - you are that person. Know it, feel it, and live it. Always. God Bless You. Michele

MaganPosted: May 19, 2004 09:18:04 AM
I was adopted at 3 days old...I am 27 now. Hate is not even a word in my vocabulary when it comes to my birthparents. They loved me very much in order to make the decesion they made. I am thankful and hope someday to be able to tell them that!

MARYPosted: Oct 14, 2003 11:41:32 PM
I DON'T THINK ANY CHILD WOULD HATE THE FACT THAT YOU WERE GIVING IT A CHANCE FOR A BETTER LIFE. I HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE ADOPTED AND THERE IS ADOPTION ALREADY IN MY FAMILY. AND EVERYONE SO FAR THAT I HAVE COME ACROSS ARE THANKFUL TO THE BIOLOGICAL PARENTS FOR CHOOSING THE PATH THEY WERE GIVEN. AND BELIEVE OR NOT THEY UNDERSTAND MORE THEN SOME PEOPLE GIVE THEM CREDIT FOR. SO IF THAT'S THE DIRECTION YOU WOULD LIKE TO TAKE, TRUST THAT YOU WILL NOT BE HATED BUT THANKED FOR GIVING THAT CHILD LIFE, INSTEAD OF OTHER ALTERNATIVES. GOOD LUCK.

MeghanPosted: Oct 14, 2003 09:22:02 AM
I am adopted and I just recently met with my birth parents. There has never been a moment in my life where I have felt any kind of hate towards them. I'm so grateful that they were smart enough to make the decision they did. Because they put me up for adoption, I have recieved the best home I possibly could have, and it just shows me how much my birth parents really cared. They wanted what would be best for me, and at that time, keeping me wasn't the right thing. I love my birthparents very much and I'm so thankful that they made the decision that they did.

AnonymousPosted: Oct 13, 2003 01:59:19 PM
I am adopted and can tell you that hate is the farthest thing from my mind. In fact, I know it took incredible love to place me for adoption and I will always be eternally grateful to my birth parents who gave me an opportunity at a better life. I grew up with an awesome Dad and Mom and the only thing I ever wanted that I didn't get was a brother or sister. You see their are so many wonderful couples out there whose only chance to be a mom and dad is through adoption. They want so desperately in their hearts to go to Saturday morning soccer games, tend to scratched up elbows and knees, and just fulfill their dreams of being a mom and dad. I know this because my parents still tell me everyday how Lucky they are to have me in their life. To say that makes me feel special and loved would be quite an understatement. Choosin adoption is by far the most loving and giving option any person could ever do for another human being. It is unbelievable and unmeasurable love. I would like to send my thanks out to every pregnant mother who chooses adoption, because you have given a child the most amazing gift of all...... A mom and a dad who will your child an amazing life. Thank you with all my heart,

MichellePosted: Oct 13, 2003 12:56:31 PM
I do not believe in my heart that your child will hate you for placing them for adoption. I have placed my son for adoption and receive pictures and letters from the adoptive family. He knows that he is adopted and I hope that one day I get to meet him again. Adoption is becoming a much more common option for pregnant woman and allows couples to have a child of their own who would otherwise not be able to. I know a couple of children who were adopted and are now adults and have spoken with them regarding their adoption. All of them have told me that they love their parents but always had a desire to know if they look like their birth parents and if they have siblings. For the few who have met with their birth parents it has been a positive experience and they understand why their birth parents placed them for adoption. They have a good relationship with them now and even keep in contact. It all depends on your individual situation, but if your child knows that you love them and did this for them than I would be assured that your child will respect you for your decision to give them a better life than you could have provided for them. I have never met an adoptee who hated their birth parents.

ShawnPosted: Oct 13, 2003 11:04:56 AM
My girlfriend just found out that she is pregant. We are thinking about placing our child for adoption. We want to konw will our child hate us for placing the baby for adoption. We would like to know the answer to this before we move forward with your agency. Thanks.



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