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TOPIC: What do adopted children think of being placed for adoption?
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| Misty | Posted: Dec 14, 2004 04:30:07 PM I was adopted when I was 4 years old and at the time, I did not understand. When I was 17, I met my birth mother again, at that time, I thanked her for giving me the greatest parents in the world, and thought she was a wonderful person, now I am 31 and I know my birth mother very well and I still thank her for my parents but I have also found that she is not what I expected her to be and that she is a very shelfish person that only thinks of herself which is why she gave me and my sisters up and tried to give my brother up. My advise to you is to always be something your child can be proud of. I have respect for my birth mother but I am glad that she gave me up for adoption. I can not tell you exactly what your child will think, but I can tell you most children (when they are older) will look at you with great respect and thank you for what you had to do. | ||
| Magan | Posted: May 19, 2004 09:11:52 AM Your baby will think wonderful things of you and may even want to thank you. I was adopted when I was 3 days old and I have wonderful things to say about my birthmother. I know she wanted to give me a better life. I admire what she did and will always thank her for that. I wish I could find her to tell her as much. If there is anything I can say it is that your child will feel love from his/her adoptive parents and will also feel loved by you...even if s/he never meets you. It is because you love this child that you are considering how to give him/a better life. I know that's how I feel. Good luck and feel free to email me anytime. :) | ||
| MARY | Posted: Oct 19, 2003 11:13:50 PM NO ONE CAN REALLY SAY HOW A CHILD MIGHT THINK OR FEEL REGARDING BEING ADOPTED. MY HUSBAND AND I ARE A COUPLE WAITING TO ADOPT AND HE HAS ADOPTED COUSIN'S IN HIS FAMILY AND I HAVE FRIENDS WHO WERE ADOPTED AND I CAN HONESTLY SAY THAT THE STORIES AND FEELINGS I HEAR FROM THEM ARE ALL DIFFERENT. BECAUSE THEY ARE ALL DIFFERENT. EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT, BUT THE MAIN THING THAT STAYS THE SAME IS THE LOVE, CARING AND HOPEFULLY THE UNDERSTANDING OF WHY THIS SITUATION CAME TO BE. YOU JUST HAVE TO KEEP IN MIND THAT THE FAMILY THAT ADOPTS YOUR CHILD WOULD DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO TRY TO MAKE YOUR CHILD UNDERSTAND AND COPE. WHICH IS WHAT MY HUSABND AND I HOPE FOR WHEN THE TIME COMES WHEN WE ADOPT. GOOD LUCK! | ||
| Meghan | Posted: Oct 14, 2003 09:26:07 AM As an adopted child I have only good things to say about being adopted. I have the best of both worlds. I have all those extra people in my life that love me. I know the decision that my birthparents made was hard, but I thank them every day and love them even more for giving me the best life I could have. I think if my parents had kept me and tried to raise me themselves things would have never worked out as well for me or for them as they did. I know that what they did was the greatest act of love they could ever show. I feel truly blessed. | ||
| diana | Posted: Oct 13, 2003 02:37:08 PM Your child will think many things of you. Some of their thoughts will be shaped by their adoptive parents. I respect my birth mother for the difficult decision she made. And, I thank her in my prayers. | ||
| Christy | Posted: Oct 13, 2003 11:55:36 AM I'm pregnant and considering adoption but I wonder what my baby will think of me. | ||
