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| michelle | Posted: Apr 05, 2004 05:57:22 PM
I just wanted to add that i do agree with dan as well. I think that if the birth father is involved and the two of you have a good relationship than try to include him in the process of adoption. It is important for men out there who are about to be fathers to be involved as well, but also understand that if they are not planning on staying around for their family than ket the birth mother make the decision that is best for the situation. Adoption is about the child and if both the birth mother and birth father can make the decision together than that is wonderful, but if the birth father is not going to play a role than the birth mother should make the best decision that she feels is right.
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| Dan | Posted: Jan 23, 2004 10:00:31 PM
She has to listen to her heart and to the heart of the birth father. I know there are a lot of low lifes who could give a you know what about what happens. I for one think it is just as brave for a man to do this too. It is not her decision a lone unless the father is unkown or doesn't care.
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| greta | Posted: Oct 29, 2003 09:21:48 PM
I also feel the same as the above messages posted. Adoption is absolutely the most responsible thing you can do because once a baby is on the way, it is no longer about you, your dad or anything else. It is about what is the best for the child.
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| Anonymous | Posted: Oct 29, 2003 08:06:47 PM
Your father is just trying to help and what he thinks is best.
there is no right or wrong answer.
it's no easy desion to make you have to make it yourself follow your heart and do not lisen to anyone elese after all this is about you and your baby
that means it is your desion alone to make and that can be pretty scare but you have to deside if you can do this or if this will be to much on you
one hand you'll have a loving baby that you created from every cell from his or her toe to the tiny nose on his or her face.
and/or two you will give the baby to people that will love him or her just as much as you do
eithor way the baby will be okay it's your desion
fill free to e-mail me anytime
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| MARY | Posted: Oct 15, 2003 03:15:42 PM
I FORGOT TO ADD TO MY PREVIOUS MESSAGE. THAT YOU ARE ALSO UNSELFISH AND STRONG.
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| MARY | Posted: Oct 15, 2003 03:14:30 PM
I'M SORRY BUT I DISAGREE WITH YOUR DAD. I THINK THAT IF YOU SERIOUSLY BELIEVE YOU ARE MAKING THE RIGHT CHOICE FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY, THEN YOU ARE BEING RESPONSIBLE, VERY RESPONSIBLE AND BRAVE.
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| Michelle | Posted: Oct 14, 2003 02:29:07 PM
You need to listen to yourself and do what you feel is right for you and your child. There are always going to be people out there who will try and tell you what they think is best and what they would do, but unless they are in your shoes they do not know how you feel. Being that it is your father he may just be trying to look out for you. No father wants to see their child have to make a difficult decision on there own. However, it is a decision that you will deal with for the rest of your life and so you are the only one who can make it. I would maybe try to explain to your dad the reasons that you feel that adoption is the right decision for your situation and try to help him understand why you feel it is the best option for your child. Good luck to you and let me know how it goes.
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| Rachel | Posted: Oct 13, 2003 09:22:48 PM
I believe that placing your baby for adoption is the MOST RESPONSIBLE thing to do if you know in your heart your are not ready to or just cannot parent a child right now. Your Dad probably comes from a generation where adoption was a hush-hush kind of thing. This is not true anymore. You should get as much information on adoption as you can and then maybe share it with a close friend who you can trust and educate yourself about adoption. You might even be able to get your dad to come around and be supportive. No matter what, you have to put the child first in this decision. Good luck!
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| Melinda | Posted: Oct 13, 2003 04:33:38 PM
I disagree with your father's opinion. I think that adoption is a very selfless act and is very responsible. If you feel that you cannot provide the best home for your child right now, then adoption is an option that you can feel good about. There are so many couples out there who have wonderful homes and just can't have a baby of their own. Your child will know what a great life you gave them and you can feel at peace knowing that you made a responsible decision that provided your child with the best chance at life.
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| Katie | Posted: Oct 13, 2003 12:12:34 PM
My dad told me that if I choose adoption that I am not being responsible, but I don't feel that way at all. Please share your thoughts.
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