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| Jody | Posted: Dec 20, 2003 03:38:59 PM
I think that Michelle knows what she is talking about- Very level headed and mature. Her reply is one to give serious concideration to.
Jody
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| Anonymous | Posted: Nov 13, 2003 10:25:37 AM
My daughter placed her baby for adoption this summer. The pro is we got to choose the adoptive family. The con is the agency we used (not American Adoptions) did not look out for our needs when drafting a contact agreement contract. The adoptive family has promised us visits so hopefully they'll be true to their word, but it's only a hope. My point to all prospective birthmothers is be certain you have a LEGAL, NEGOTIATED, SIGNED contact agreement contract if that is what you want.
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| Michelle | Posted: Nov 06, 2003 05:31:25 PM
I am a birth mom and a lot of my reasons for placing my baby for adoption focused on what was best for my child. There are so many pros of adoption when you look at it from the standpoint of the child because there are so many opportunities that they may be able to have that a birth mom cannot provide for them. If birth moms and birth fathers could provide all of those experience and opportunities than most likely they would not be looking for options outside of parenting. The only cons that go along with adoption are the occasional sadness. However, it does get easier and it does go away. Knowing that your child is well taken care of and loved by a couple as much as you love your child is comforting and can even make you happy. It is very rewarding knowing that you did something for your child and also gave a "gift" to your child's adoptive family. I feel very happy knowing that I made the best decision for my son and that his adoptive family and I have a bond that can never be broken!
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| MARY | Posted: Oct 19, 2003 11:35:28 PM
EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT MEANINGS FOR PROS AND CONS OF ADOPTION. AS FOR MY WAY OF THINKING I CAN'T SEE ANY CONS IN PLACING A CHILD FOR ADOPTION. BUT I DO SEE TONS OF PROS FOR PLACING A CHILD FOR ADOPTION. THE BIGGEST PRO I CAN THINK OF IS PLACING A CHILD WITH A LOVING AND CARING FAMILY INSTEAD OF SOME OTHER ALTERNATIVE THAT SOME PEOPLE TAKE OR MAKE.
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| Diana | Posted: Oct 13, 2003 02:31:06 PM
The pros and cons are many and are different for each woman. As an adopted child, I think the pros have far outweighed the cons. But, you must decide for yourself. I wish you the best.
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| Amber | Posted: Oct 13, 2003 12:16:11 PM
Could someone tell me the pros and cons of placing my baby for adoption.
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