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| Michelle | Posted: Nov 03, 2004 12:17:27 AM
As another birth mother I can tell you from experience that placing your child for adoption will be one of the most difficult decisions that you ever make but it can also be very rewarding. You are giving your child an opportunity to have the kind of life that you cannot provide him/her at this time. You are also allowing a couple to become a family. Handing your child over to the adoptive family is a very emotional and heartwrenching experience, but at the same time when you see the joy in their eyes when they hold their new baby you can feel the love they have for not only the child but also for you. You will feel some emptiness inside for you are losing someone that you love so dearly. At the same time you are giving your child something that no one else can give them, a chance to have everything in life that they deserve. You can receive letters and pictures from the adoptive family that tell you what they have been doing. You can also write letters to the adoptive family and send pictures so that your child will always know that you never stop thinking about them or stop loving them. Only you will know what is best for your situation and for your child. I hope this helps. I wish you the best and please contact American adoptions if you would like to speak to someone further.
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| Shannon | Posted: Jun 20, 2004 12:36:59 AM
The other posters here are right- you are the only one that knows if adoption is right for you and your baby, there are many wonderful stories about adoption and how great it works out- and its a very loving and hard choice to make- have you tried talking to other girls in your situation? Try www.birthmombuds.com there are some great girls there!
Shannon
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| Ilene | Posted: Jun 15, 2004 11:44:18 PM
Hi Bridget, First of all let me congratulate you for being willing to admit that as a single parent you might not feel you can give your child everything he/she needs in life. That is a huge step to take. If you aren't already working with an adoption agency, please allow me to recommend American Adoptions. They have a great program for birth mothers as well as adoptive parents. They can help you work out an adoptive plan that will make you feel comfortable with the adoption. I know personally of several adopted children who are in their teens now and some who are adults and now have families of their own. One of them has been a Youth Pastor in our church. He is real grateful to his birth mother for giving him a chance in life. I have several cousins who chose to adopt and those kids are all doing great. If you definitely choose adoption you will have the opportunity to follow your childs life through pictures and letters for as many years as you want and more if you so choose. We will be praying for you!!
Marlin and Ilene
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| Terri | Posted: Jun 15, 2004 10:06:26 PM
Only you can decide what is the right choice for you and your baby. Adoption is right for some people, but not for others. My husband, Todd, and I have one adopted son, Cooper, who is 2 1/2. We are hoping to adopt a little brother or sister for him soon. We send pictures and letters to Cooper's birthparents twice a year, and would be glad to do that again with our second adoption. Take the time, do some research, and make the decision that is right for you.
Good Luck!
Terri
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| Jan | Posted: Jun 15, 2004 08:10:55 PM
Dear Bridget,
The only person who can make the decision as to whether adoption is right in this situation is you. You sound like a very together lady with the ability to assess your limitations and know what you can and can't provide for your baby. The fact that you are even considering adoption demonstrates the love you have for your baby and your desire for him/her to have the best life can offer. If you do choose that adoption is the right decision, thru open adoption you can select the family that you think is perfect for your baby. Having that comfort in knowing the family your baby will go to will hopefully give you a peace about the whole thing. With lots of hugs, Jan and Phil
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| Bridget | Posted: Jun 15, 2004 01:03:52 PM
I found out 4 days ago that I'm 6 months pregnant. The father of my child and I dated for 2 years, but are no longer together. I know that at 20 years old I'm not able to take care of this child like it should be taken care of, but I also am so afraid that I wont be able to hand my baby to someone else and not ever know what happened. I'm so confused. I know that if I really wanted to I could take care of my baby, but he/she wouldn't have the same fighting chance at life, as he/she would if I gave him/her up for adoption. I know that there are so many loving families out there that want babies and can't do it themselves, but how will I be sure that my baby is taking care of? I'm so confused. Someone please give me some reassurance that adoption is the best option.
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