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| Janene | Posted: Feb 06, 2005 10:25:40 AM
I'm so sorry for your prior loss. After I had a loss in 96, I became pregnant in 2000, and have a 4 year old. I am a single working mom. My daughter attends preschool while I work, just also completing my 3rd college degree. I am also recently unplanned pregnant, again.
Single parenting is HARD. I thought I was ready, so gave up all contact and monetary support from her father. He also had a drug addiction and refused treatment, so I left. We split when 4 months pregnant.
Being single and having a child is difficult, yet rewarding every thime I hear "Mommy I love you."
My feelings about single parenting are this:
I know its difficult. Being ready to commit to a relationship that will surely last the rest of your life is a huge step. I think you should attempt to adopt. From what I've heard, there are PLENTY single moms out there. I AM ONE!
However, I'm not ready for another. I can't feel like I'm breaking another heart. My daughter constantly asks about her Father. I only tell her 3 things: Your daddy loves you, he's far away, and someday you will see him. I secretly cry every time I tell her this. The feelings associated with the questions she asks are tough to think about for me. I hope that one day she will be at peace
with it all.
Adoption is my plan for this second child.
Everything works out.
You will have a child, no matter if he or she is adopted or not. I think you would make an EXCELLENT mother.
Take care and best of luck to you.
| | Michelle | Posted: Nov 03, 2004 12:08:26 AM
First of all I want to say that I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I believe that if you feel that you have everything to offer a child as a single parent than you should have every right to raise a child. I personally believe that it is important for a child to have a mother and father figure but that father figure does not have to be someone that is involved romantically in your life. As long as they have a male role model than I think you can raise a child just as well as anyone else.
| | Melissa | Posted: Oct 18, 2004 06:40:32 PM
I think a single mother adopting is just fine. If you are financially secure and feel prepared to care for a child then why not. I am a single mother, working on my PhD. My child grew up in child care and she is just fine. I always made sure she had my full attention in the evening and we would do fun and special things on the weekends. I would recommend that you would probably have an easier time with a girl unless you are really into playing sports.
Best of Luck,
Melissa
| | Gwen | Posted: Aug 13, 2004 03:18:44 PM
I would be fine with it, except that I hate it when kids have to grow up in Day Care. If you were a stay at home mother, that'd be cool. Or had a day care in your home or something. Or perhaps only worked part time until the kid started going to school. When i gave my baby up for adoption, I made sure it was a couple with a stay at home mom. Even though I would love to have been able to give a baby to a single parent that really wanted a child, I changed my mind because I grew up with a stay at home mom and think it's best for the kids.
| | Jodi | Posted: Aug 04, 2004 08:51:19 PM
Hello,
I came across this message board while doing research on the adoption option. I wanted to know the feelings of birthmothers out there on single parent adoptions?
I am a 34 year old single woman, and my daughter was stillborn on May 27, 2004. She was very planned for and wanted.. conceived thru unknown donor insemination. (many people out there do not favor the idea that women sometimes make the choice I made, but it's MY life, not theirs). Anyway, while I have been dealing with such a heartbreaking loss, I am now considering adoption.
I see many website on Adoption with mostly couples wanting to adopt. What about single women who are financially and emotionally ready to be a mother? Having a child is a lifelong dream of mine. I am very independent, loving, intelligent, fun, and have grown as a person in countless ways over the years. I am single by choice.. although one day I'm sure I will have a partner to share life with!
Is it worth pursuing adoption, or do you think most birthmothers would not favor the idea of having a single woman adopt their baby? You can email me at jbee70@aol.com if you do not want to post here. Thanks for your feedback!
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