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TOPIC: What you through after giving up your baby
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| Michelle | Posted: Nov 03, 2004 12:01:40 AM I am a birth mother who placed my son for adoption almost 7 years ago. It was the most difficult decision that I ever made but it was also the best decision for him. I love my son more than anything in the world and that is why I chose adoption. You will have your good days and your bad days. Sometimes you will get angry, sad, mad, but there are also a lot of happy times. Being able to have the opportunity to receive pictures and letters from the adoptive family has been very helpful to me because I get to see how much he has grown and all the wonderful experiences and oppotunities that he has had with his adoptive family through adoption. There is a certain feeling of emptiness inside that you may go through and even though this is normal it does hurt sometimes. Sometimes you miss your child so badly that you just want to hold them in your arms and never let go. But at the same time when I am having those feelings I think about how happy he is with his adoptive family and all the wonderful things that they have and continue to provide for him. There is no way that I would ever take all of that away from him. I know that his adoptive family loves him just as much as I do and that is comforting even when those bad days arrive. I would encourage you to seek counseling as that has helped me deal with some of the issues of grief and loss. It always helps to talk to someone and I hope you know you are very brave for considering adoption for your child. | ||
| michelle | Posted: Sep 25, 2004 11:28:00 PM Ive experienced a wide spectrum of emotion everything from udder devistation to new found hope. Placing a child for adoption is no easy feat, everything you might have expected in a life time diminishes and reality sinks in. Life is hard but sometimes the hardest things are the best things. Its a difficult journey, a wound that I'm still nourishing and will continue to nourish for a life time. An introspective process which has taught me an immense amount about myself. Though with the awareness came paralyzing pain and angst. Feelings of guilt, selfishness and failure. I did not give away my child, I placed her with an incredible family with whom I communicate with monthly a family whom is providing her with every bit of love she deserves. Would I do it over again knowing what I know now, maybe not but I'm dealing with my choice and bettering myself for my daughters benefit. | ||
| Kathy | Posted: Sep 15, 2004 11:34:41 AM I need to know everything you go through after you have given up your child to the New parents of him or her. If any one could tell me I would Appreciate it. Thank you | ||
