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| Janene | Posted: Feb 05, 2005 09:11:15 AM
Hang in there, YOU ARE NOT A HORRIBLE PERSON. You are filled with emotions from hormonal changes due to the pregancy also. I would write more, but my almost 4 yo daughter is here asking for candy. I am pregnant, too, and considering adoption. I also feel overwhelming feelings of unworthiness, guilt, shame, doubt and above all fear. Talk to someone when you can, or email me. CNEEN@ADELPHIA.NET
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| Debbie | Posted: Dec 11, 2004 09:03:24 PM
Hi Jamie,
My name is Debbie and I just read about your situation tonight. I don't know if you have made any decisions yet but hope that everything is working out for you. My husband I are are wanting to adopt a baby very soon. We are in the process of checking into all situations. If you are interested in adoption for your child, I would like to speak with you. We are a very stable family with one biological child but could not have anymore. We are Christians and have a wonderful home life. Pray that God will answer your prayers and your needs and have faith and trust in Him to do what's right for you and your baby.
Love In Christ,
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| Natalie | Posted: Nov 13, 2004 03:27:11 PM
I think you are headed in the right direction. Though I have never gone through what you are right now. There are amny people out there that will be there to listen to you and help you through this. Keep on reading. There are many site out there for people who are entering , considering or have gome through the adoption process, be it as a birthmother or the person adopting. If you keep on reading perhaps you will know eventually where your heart lies. Also , as Michelle mention, there are many adoption specialists and councellors who will be neutral to your situation and they will be able to help. It is a huge heartfelt life decision. Only you will know what is best for you and your baby's future.
~Good Luck~
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| Michelle | Posted: Nov 02, 2004 11:29:13 PM
I understand that you are scared and unsure of adoption because there is that feeling of the unknown. I am a birth mother who chose adoption for my son 6 years ago. The adoptive families that work with American Adoptions have to go through a very intense process before they are accepted by the agency and qualified to adopt. Adoptive families have criminal and child abuse background checks done along with an adoption professional coming into their home to go over every aspect of their life and family so that the professional knows and can recommend that this family is capable of adopting. I also understand that you feel guilty about your situation. This is very normal and all of those emotions and feelings are expected considering all that you are going through right now. Your adoption specialist at American Adoptions will help with counseling and discussing some of these feelings that you are experiencing. Adoption is one of the most difficult decisions that you will ever make, but it can also be rewarding knowing that you are making a loving and wonderful decision for your child.
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| Terri | Posted: Nov 02, 2004 10:36:02 PM
Jamie,
The way you are feeling is totally understandable. We are an adoptive family, but if you would like to hear about our adoption experience, I'd be glad to share it with you. Let me know---ymterri@yahoo.com.
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| Jamie | Posted: Oct 31, 2004 12:42:43 AM
I am already a mother of a 4 yr old boy and I am 5 1/2 months pregnant now and the father and I were together for 3 1/2 yrs until recently. He has been verbally and physically abusive and I know that with that situation and the financial situation I am in I am not capable to raise a baby right now and I am thinking that adoption is the best choice for my baby. Why do I feel like I am a irresponsible, horrible, thoughtless person? I am afraid of what will happen if I keep the baby (which I know I can't) but I am afraid of the adoption process. Will the baby be OK? Will I be Ok? I just need to talk to someone about this.
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