Dear Birth Parent(s),

Hello, we are Debbie and Jeff and while we cannot fathom the decision that you face, we appreciate you taking a moment to read a little about us. We have been married for six years, but have been together since high school. Upon seeing each other for the first time, we both knew we were meant to be together. Before we were married we told both of our families that we hoped one day to adopt a child. Our relationship is strong, we feel we have so much to offer, and we understand the importance of communication.

We have a very open and fun relationship with each other. Our days are not complete until we make each other laugh; either of us takes advantage of any funny voice or silly walk if the other needs cheering up. Our intimacy is evident because we love to hug and hold hands. We make a great team because we share the same beliefs and dreams, and we talk through any differences that arise. We believe in exploring personal development and find that we are strongest individually when supporting each other. We would like to share a few thoughts about the other.

My husband is dedicated and brave. He stands for what he believes and puts the needs of others before his own. He quietly and patiently leads by example. He is the dependable family member or friend everyone turns to for a helping hand. Jeff is very thoughtful, and sometimes brings home little gifts to show me how much he cares.

My wife is kind and considerate. She is always concerned about how everyone else feels, and wants everyone to be happy. She is typically the mediator of any family discussion because she can be objective and fair. Debbie has a large heart and never misses an opportunity to help a stray animal, donate to food/ clothes drives, or offer assistance.

Both of us have office jobs and are fortunate to work for companies who understand the importance of family. Our jobs offer flextime and different work schedules to fit the individual needs of each family. Although we have flexible schedules, we will be relying on day care and very willing grandparents for a few hours most workdays.

We want to help your child learn through fun and interesting experiences. We are excited at the prospect of sharing our frequent trips to the zoo and the park with a child. We attend church regularly and wish to help your child grow in faith. With family members that specialize in the health, educational and social development of young children, we feel that we have a good support base to help with any concerns that may arise.

We believe in exploring individuality and being true to yourself and others. We are fortunate to have many friends and family members with children. This has allowed us to truly appreciate how each child has specific needs and abilities that can be different from every other child. By participating in the lives of shy children, gifted children, fearless children, and an autistic child, we are amassing tools and techniques to help develop the unique gifts and talents to make your child shine and develop the self-esteem that comes from reaching his/her potential.

We are blessed with so much love and support that our biggest dream is to share that with a child. Through the choices we make every day, we would instill in your child the integrity in doing the right thing for its own reward, the happiness in finding something kind to say or do, and the strength in selflessness. Above all else, your child would always feel special, and that he/she belongs and is loved not only by us, but also by you.

Adoption is a way of permanently bonding two sets of people, creating family. Your child will not forget you because we will have a special celebration every year honoring your decision. Through sincerity, and by always communicating our own feelings, your child will grow to understand s/he can talk to us about anything, including his/her feelings about being adopted. Your child will know as much about you as you wish, and we will always answer questions honestly. If you choose, you can observe how your child grows and develops through pictures, e-mails, and letters.

Thank you for learning a little more about us. We understand you face a difficult decision. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Jeff & Debbie