We are grateful that you are taking the time to read about us and consider us as possible parents for your child. We each followed long and difficult roads before we met and married each other, and now raising a family together is the journey and experience we long to share with each other. But we cannot do that without you.
We met in 2006 at a wedding in Los Angeles. Gus remembers the first moment he looked into her eyes, and the first moment Jill took his hand. We danced all night at the wedding, and on the flight back to New York City the next day, Gus wondered if he had just met the woman he would one day marry. But Jill was living in Washington DC at the time, and so we simply remained friends for several years. A few years later we were reunited on a trip to Belize, by the end of the trip, we’d decided to date even though we were now living across the country from each other (Gus was in the Bay Area, and Jill was in Pennsylvania). By the end of the year, Jill had moved out to California, and we were engaged.
We married later in life, at age 38. We struggled with infertility for several years, including 3 miscarriages. Rather than continue down that road, we knew adoption was the way we wanted to go. We had already discussed adoption before we got married, since we knew we were getting a late start, so it was a natural transition for us. We understand that you, too, have given careful consideration to adoption, and we want you to know that we will work hard to be loving parents. If you choose us, we will always be willing to send pictures and letters so that you can feel confident and secure knowing that you made the right decision.
As parents, there are many things we hope to pass on to our child: Gus hopes to pass on a love of science, math, and sports, while Jill hopes to pass on a love of art, animals, and social justice. Together we hope to pass on a love of music, reading (we have over 2,000 books in our house), and travel; the world is so big and beautiful and complex, and we want our child to see as much of it as possible. Exploring the world together has been one of the great joys of our marriage, and we are excited to share that joy with our child.
After long careers of hard work we are able to offer our child far more opportunities than either of us ever had ourselves growing up. We hope to expose our child to these opportunities and let them pursue whichever ones they naturally like best. We want our child to be active but not overscheduled or pressured into activities that they don’t enjoy (except homework, of course!).
But perhaps more than anything, what we hope to pass on is a desire to be a good person. We hope that by example and by the opportunities we provide, that our child will grow to be kind, to cherish others and seek out ways to make the world a better place. These are the values that we hold dear, and have always strived to live by.
It is said that there are two types of family: the family we’re born into, and the family we choose. We hope that what you have read about us here gives you a glimpse of how much love we have to share, and that you will choose us to be your child’s family, and help us become the parents we aspire to be. It is the greatest gift that anyone could ever offer us. And we hope, in the long run, that it will be a gift to you in return.
Thank you for taking the time to get to know us.
Gus and Jill
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