We understand that the word "difficult" doesn't do what you're likely feeling justice. The decision to place your child for adoption simply cannot be expressed in a single word. It can be said though that you are insightful, caring, and courageous because you are purposefully deciding what is best for the child. We are honored that you are taking the time to learn more about us and welcome the opportunity to join you in this journey.
We are Jayson and Mellissa. We met in the fall of 2009 while attending college together. Life had flung us both into Madison, Wisconsin. We truly believe it was fate. Bright and early on Tuesdays and Thursdays we had Adolescent Phycology followed by Historiography. It started with Jayson always saving her a seat next to him since Mellissa tends to run behind in the mornings. On October 16th we had our first date. Although Jayson has improved, at the time he was a very picky eater. During our first date he couldn't find anything he liked so we left the first restaurant and went to another. We closed the restaurant down that night, talking late into the evening. The next night we went out again, this time to a polka restaurant were Mellissa was introduced to some amazing friends who can't wait to support us as parents.
We were engaged in the spring of 2011 and were married in 2012. Mellissa knew Jayson was the one she wanted to spend the rest of her life with because he made her laugh. For Jayson it was clear that Mellissa made him a better person, and that he enjoyed his life much more with her in it. Jayson is also a great listener, and we have very similar outlooks on life. We can talk for hours or do nothing at all but just spend time together. We also complimented each other nicely. While we both like to recharge at home, Jayson helps Mellissa come out of her shell. Conversely Jayson can tend to be a creature of habit and Mellissa helps him try new things.
In the fall of 2013 we began our quest toward parenthood. For 3 long years we worked with multiple doctors, getting lots and lots of tests, undergoing multiple surgeries and procedures, experienced 4 failed embryo transfers, and miscarried twins from donated embryos. Those long and stressful months were some of the hardest of our lives. We grew so much as a couple; seeking comfort from each other, communicating during the angry and sad days, and juggling all the stress. After going through all that we did we know there is nothing that can rattle our marriage. But this leads us to this moment in time. After a lot of soul searching and talking, researching and more researching, we are pursuing adoption to create our family. Through it all, being parents was our dream. Being biologically related to our child was not important to us because family goes beyond blood, it's shaped by love and time together.
Words cannot describe how excited we are to create new memories as a family, and share all our passions and adventures with our child but also learn new ones that they enjoy. We look forward to including you in our lives as we give our whole hearts to raising our child with love and patience. We are committed to an open adoption and ensuring our child knows their story and you. We are also committed to sending you letters and photos at a minimum. Technology is a wonderful way to stay connected and we would be honored to involve you via emails, FaceTime, and even in person visits.
Thank you again for the opportunity to begin to get know us. We hope to begin our journey together soon!
Jayson and Mellissa
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