Thank you for reviewing our profile. We believe that adoption is a gift, and a wonderful way to build a family. We're so excited to become parents. We're committed to becoming excellent parents and know that this will be a learning process. We have a lot of love for each other and to share with a child, and we hope that you'll consider us.
Through adoption, we’ll become parents for the first time. We’re fortunate to have great parents who have set good examples for us. We imagine that everyone thinks that they know what it means to be a good parent -- until they actually become one. We’re prepared to be surprised by all of the joys and challenges of becoming parents. In addition to love, we believe that parenting requires a lot of flexibility and patience (both with each other and with our child). Parents have to place the needs of their child above their own. We believe that parents need to set boundaries and provide guidance, but allow their child to learn from their own mistakes. Parents should offer their child unconditional love and acceptance. We believe that parents need to nurture and support their child’s unique strengths and hopes and dreams rather than imposing their own expectations on to their child. We believe that parents need work together as a team but also cover for each other when necessary. We expect that parenting will require consistency and good communication. Like many, we feel a lot of excitement and anticipation around becoming a parent. At the same time, we look forward to adding to our family. We expect to have a lot of fun and to fill our home with laughter. We’re committed to giving our child all of the opportunities and experiences we can offer, so that our child can reach his or her full potential.
We think that make a great team, but we have specific strengths as individuals. Brenda is a very strong and determined person. Her father passed away when she was ten years old, and her mother raised her and her three brothers as a single parent. Her youngest brother was diagnosed with a brain tumor when he was a child and while he’s healthy today, he continues to struggle with his memory and executive functioning. This brought her family closer together, and makes her extremely thankful and appreciative of everything that she has. Her experiences have made her understand the importance of keeping everything in perspective. Brenda is sensitive and kind and values community. She is respectful of others. She is introspective and creative and intellectually curious. Brenda loves children and enjoys her nieces and nephews.
Kevin is extremely smart, but very fun and easy going. He has a great sense of humor. He’s reliable and gets things done no matter how difficult it might be or how long it takes. He is very kind and thoughtful of others in both big and small ways. Kevin is really accommodating and helpful to those around him. He always thinks about and remembers what others might enjoy, or what might make them happy. He’s protective of those he cares about. Kevin is a leader in his field, but he’s very humble. Both of us have a strong commitment to social justice and our personal and professional lives reflect that.
We’re committed to sharing not only our culture with our child, but honoring their own.
We have many friends who have adopted, including some who have adopted children with different racial backgrounds or cultures than their own. We would do our best to learn and share with our child their own cultural traditions and foods and language. We live in a very diverse and open community, and it’s common to see all kinds of families in our neighborhood.
We are very interested in and curious about other cultures, and this is one reason why we love to travel. Kevin has had the opportunity to travel to many other countries for work, including Chile, Gambia, Sri Lanka, Norway and Cuba. Brenda has traveled to Europe and Southeast Asia. Together, we’ve visited Honduras and Argentina and Iceland. Kevin speaks Spanish, and we try to make genuine connections with people when we travel. We’d love to raise our child as a citizen of the world with a deep appreciation for other cultures.
We’d also be respectful of any traditions that you wished to share. Brenda is a civil rights attorney and works on racial justice issues. As a result, we’ve discussed and thought a lot about the importance and value of diversity. We’ll do whatever it takes to make our child feel loved and valued and safe.
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