“Can I give my baby up for adoption without the father’s consent to adoption in Kansas?”
“Does the birth father have to agree to adoption?”
“Is adoption when the father is unknown an option for me?”
Anyone who is considering placing their baby for adoption in Kansas will have a unique relationship with the father or mother of that baby. Every situation is different, and there are many reasons why you may have questions about whether you can make an adoption plan without the birth father’s involvement or support.
Here, learn more about birth father rights in Kansas and your ability to make an adoption plan with a supportive, unsupportive or uninvolved birth father.
Some birth mothers who’ve successfully placed their children with American Adoptions are happily married to or in a loving relationship with the father of the baby they placed; they simply felt unable to care for this child at the time for any number of reasons. Other birth moms are unsure of who the father of their baby is. Some birth mothers are single moms to older children, some of whom were fathered by the same man, and some of whom have separate fathers.
Some birth mothers are in a relationship with, or are on good terms with the birth father of their baby. Other birth mothers have a toxic relationship with the birth father, and this may be a reason why they’re making an adoption plan.
The important thing to understand is this: whether you have a good relationship with the father of your baby or not, adoption can still be an option for you.
Ideally, the father of your baby supports and respects you throughout your adoption journey. But sometimes, birth fathers are unsupportive, uninvolved, or unknown.
Regardless of the kind of relationship you have with the birth father, the first step you should take is to call 1-800-ADOPTION now.
You’ll be able to talk about your current situation with an adoption professional. You’re under no obligation to choose adoption. This will simply give you a better idea of your options and what you can do to move forward based on your situation with the baby’s father.
By talking about your situation with a Kansas adoption professional, they’ll be able to give you information about adoption when the father is unknown or uninvolved and explain birth father rights in adoption in your given circumstances. Or they’ll be able to connect you with whatever KS resources you need if you decide that adoption isn’t the right option for you.
In short, adoption without parental consent in Kansas is sometimes possible, but it depends on your particular circumstances.
Legally, pregnant women should work with their adoption professional to make every attempt to contact the possible father of their child before pursuing adoption without parental consent.
There are three ways to approach the father of your baby about your adoption plan, and inform him of your pregnancy:
The best way to inform the birth father about your KS adoption plan is in person or via phone. Meet him in a calm, quiet and private place. Stay calm and collected. Be prepared to answer his questions, address his concerns, and understand the emotions he’s processing.
If you’re comfortable, you can ask him to be involved in your adoption plan (including the selection of an adoptive family and/or post-adoption communication with an open adoption) or invite him to create his own birth father adoption plan.
Sometimes it’s not possible to inform the birth father in person. Writing out your thoughts can give you time to carefully think through what you want to say, allow you to include educational resources about adoption, and prevent you from becoming too caught up in your own emotions.
It can help to have your adoption specialist or a trusted friend or family member who is supportive of your adoption plan to read through your letter to make sure that you come across as kind, calm, and that you include all the necessary information.
It’s not ideal, but sometimes it’s necessary to have a professional handle the conversation about your pregnancy and adoption plan with the birth father. If you don’t feel comfortable speaking to him yourself, or if you feel that the conversation would simply escalate into an argument, then this might be the best option for you.
There are situations in which you don’t have to inform the birth father about your pregnancy and adoption plan. If you want to pursue adoption without consent of the birth father, call 1-800-ADOPTION to speak to an adoption specialist to see if that option is legally available to you.
While pregnant women are the ones carrying the child and the ones making the majority of the decisions, birth fathers play a vital role in the adoption process. Understanding your birth father rights in adoption is part of that process.
You can create a birth father adoption plan under the guidance of an adoption specialist. Call 1-800-ADOPTION to request free information about adoption.
It’s not uncommon for a woman to become pregnant and not have a way to contact the baby’s possible father, or to pursue adoption without knowing the father. The man may not be aware that she’s pregnant, and the woman may not know how to notify him that she’s pregnant or that she’s creating an adoption plan. For this, the putative father would need to claim paternity by filing an affidavit or an official acknowledgment of paternity with a Kansas adoption court.
In order to contest a pregnant woman’s decision to place a child for adoption in Kansas, you’ll not only need to formally establish paternity in court, but you’ll typically need to demonstrate your commitment to parenting the child, including providing for pregnancy and birth expenses, the child’s physical, emotional, and financial needs, and continuing to have a parent-child relationship throughout the child’s life.
To speak to an American Adoptions specialist now about your current circumstances or to learn more about birth father rights in Kansas adoptions, call 1-800-ADOPTION for free information without any obligation to choose adoption.
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