Adopted children are loved as much as the most loved child, which begs the question, “Why are adopted children loved so much?”

 

Loving a child isn’t about biology; it is about wanting to be a parent.  It is about wanting to share a good life and your love with a child.  Understanding the journey adoptive couples take to become a Mom and Dad will show you why adoption is so amazing for a child.

 

Imagine for a moment, you're a 24-year-old female and have a fabulous career. You have been dating an incredible man for three years and he asks you to marry him. Planning the wedding, you find your life as a married couple begins. Spending time with your husband is an absolute joy, from everyday occurrences to fun vacations. 

 

With two good careers, you find saving money is easy. Hoping one day you can build a dream home, send your children to college or have a nice nest egg for security. 

 

As time passes, you buy your first home and move in hoping to start a family. You reflect upon your life thinking how lucky you both are. You both have great jobs, live in a brand new home in a great neighborhood and you love each other dearly. Talking about sharing your life and love with a child becomes a frequent conversation. You happily decide it is time. 

 

Two long years pass though and you are not able to become pregnant. 

 

You visit a doctor. The doctor prescribes medication he says helps most women get pregnant. You take the medication for a year with no results. Disappointed, your doctor refers you to a specialist who starts you on a series of shots, medications and treatments, all so you can become a mom and dad.  

 

You quickly discover the medications and treatments are horrible because they affect your hormones, making you feel hot flashes, mood swings and depression. You often feel like you are an animal in a testing lab. Every day you are poked, prodded and pumped full of different medications while you try to become a parent. You know it is worth it, but it is hard.  

 

Three more excruciating years pass and you are still not able to become pregnant. 

 

Feeling frustrated and sad, you wonder why you can’t become pregnant. You just want to be a mom.  Pain seems to come from all angles now as you hopelessly watch your friends become parents and some sadly begin taking their children for granted. You writhe in agony as your dreams of being a mom seem to be slowly slipping away. 

 

In talking to some friends, they mention adoption. You go online to read some more about it. You wonder if you really can become a mom and dad through adoption. Your heart races with hope. Hope you haven’t experienced in five long years. 

 

You search on the Internet for hours and come away feeling more excited. Minutes feel like hours as you wait to meet your husband for dinner. You can’t wait to tell him what you have found. During dinner your hopeful enthusiasm begins to fill his heart, you watch his saddened eyes turn bright again as his faded hopes of being a dad become clearer again.

 

Every adoptive family experiences a similar journey. 

 

Hoping to become a mom and dad, these adoptive families pour thousands of dollars into infertility treatments. Investing years of emotional energy is the price they pay just for the chance to become a mom and dad. In the end, they want nothing more than to share their life and love with a child. During their long journey, they come to realize that being a parent has little to do with biology and everything to do with desire and devotion.  These families endure all the pain and disappointments because they want with every beat of their heart to be a mom and dad.

 

When a couple becomes a family through adoption, everyone can see and feel the love they give to their child.  A love and devotion every child deserves to have.

 

In contrast, many biological children arrive unexpectedly and their biological parents try their best to be all they can be. With adopted children, their adoptive family has been reserving a special place in their hearts and homes for years. They are prepared in every way to become a mom and dad. When given that opportunity, they don’t take it for granted. 

 

Understanding the journey and sacrifices an adoptive couple makes, it is easy to understand why adopted child are loved so much.

 

Spend only a few minutes with any adoptive family and you will feel the love they have for their child.  It is an amazing amount of love that any child is lucky to feel.