For many women, deciding how to handle an unplanned pregnancy is one of the most emotionally difficult decisions of a lifetime. Expectant mothers often wonder, is putting your infant up for adoption wrong? Am I a bad mother for considering adoption? How do I know that I’m making the right choice?
If you have asked yourself questions like these, it proves that you are putting a lot of thought into your decision and trying to do what is best for your baby — and that is exactly what good mothers do.
Every woman’s situation is different, and you are the only person who can decide what is best for you and your baby. The question isn’t whether putting a child up for adoption is “wrong” or “right,” but whether it is the right choice for you.
As you consider your unplanned pregnancy options, it may seem like everyone has an opinion about what’s right, what’s wrong, and what you “should” do. With so many different views on adoption, it can be overwhelming to make a decision — and to ensure that your choice truly yours.
One of the best ways to determine that you are making the right choice is to ensure you are choosing adoption for the right reasons. Adoption may be right for you if:
you want to take control of your situation and your baby’s future.
you want to continue pursuing your own goals to build a better life for yourself and your future family.
you want to provide your baby with all of the opportunities life has to offer.
you want to choose the perfect adoptive parents for your baby — a family who has been thoroughly screened and fits all of your hopes and dreams for your child.
you want to ensure that your child is safe, happy, healthy and thriving in a stable home with loving parents.
you want to maintain a relationship with your child and watch him or her grow up.
you love your baby unconditionally and are putting his or her needs before your own.
Studies show that adoption is the right choice for many women facing an unplanned pregnancy; birth mothers are more likely to finish school, less likely to live in poverty, more likely to be employed and less likely to face another unplanned pregnancy than those who choose to be single parents.
By choosing adoption, countless women have been able to continue their personal, professional and educational goals — all while providing their babies with positive lives full of love and opportunity.
Even if you decide that adoption is right for you, you may worry about the impact your choice will have on your child.
However, studies show that adopted children grow up to be just as happy, healthy and well-adjusted as their non-adopted peers. Additionally, the vast majority of adopted children are raised to be proud of their adoption story and to understand their birth parents’ unconditional love.
Adoption is about putting your child’s needs before your own — and if you are choosing adoption because you believe it is what’s best for you and your baby, you are doing the right thing. Putting your child up for adoption is wrong only if you feel that you are not making the best possible choice for your child.
Making an adoption decision is never easy. If you need help exploring your unplanned pregnancy options, you may call 1-800-ADOPTION at any time to speak with an adoption counselor, for free and with no obligation to proceed with an adoption plan. Our licensed adoption specialists are available 24/7 to provide the information and guidance you need to make the choice that is right for you and your baby.
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