Women considering adoption sometimes believe that an adoptive couple can’t possibly love an adopted child as much as one of their own biological children. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Understanding the difficult journey adoptive parents take to become a mom and dad proves how much the opportunity to love a child means to them and why they love their child more than they ever could’ve imagined.
A couple falls in love, gets married and decide the time is finally right for them to start a family.
Several years pass, and they are unable to become pregnant. They visit a doctor, who prescribes medication to help them get pregnant. But after a year, they still have no luck, so their doctor refers them to a specialist who administers a series of shots, medications and treatments.
The medications and treatments give the woman hot flashes, mood swings and depression. She feels like an animal in a testing lab, and their marriage sometimes feels strained. They know the end result is worth it, so they hold on to hope.
Years pass, and they still cannot get pregnant.
Often by this time, the couple’s friends and other family members have begun to have children, and they are reminded of their infertility everywhere: on TV, in stores, online, and even in casual conversations. While these feelings of helplessness and frustration may be difficult for most of us to understand, they are very real for thousands of couples every year.
You can imagine the relief and excitement these hopeful parents (and others who cannot have their own children for reasons other than infertility) begin to feel when they begin exploring adoption – a very real solution to becoming parents. They often feel a sense of hope that they maybe have not experienced for years.
And when the moment finally arrives, when the new mom and dad first get to hold their new baby because of a birth mother’s amazingly selfless decision, the joy they feel is indescribable. This was a moment they thought was lost to them forever because of infertility, but they are now able to know what it is like to have a child to call their own.
Now that you understand an adoptive family’s journey, how much are they are going to love their child? They have been reserving a special place in their hearts and homes for years. They are prepared in every way to become a mom and dad. And when they are finally given that opportunity, they don’t take it for granted.
And for families who do have other children and adopt a child, the same is true for them as well. They love all of their children equally, and after a while they don’t even consider that one of their children are even adopted. All that matters is that he or she is an equally important member of their family.
Love is universal, especially to children. The memories and experiences adoptive parents share with their adopted children is what their love is based upon – not on whether or not they share the same bloodline.
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