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It is not uncommon for a woman considering adoption to wonder if her child will resent her for choosing adoption. While not uncommon, the thought of your child one day hating you for placing them for adoption is a terrifying one - leaving you to wonder if adoption really is your best option.

It's almost comical how, when faced with an unplanned pregnancy, everyone in your life suddenly becomes an expert, lecturing you about what you should do next. People unsupportive of adoption will tell you just that - that your child will hate you for "giving them up." Perpetrated by fear of the unknown and of a lack of understanding about the modern adoption process, people often believe that an adopted child grows up lost and lonely, wondering who their birth parents are, never finding a sense of "self." 

However, that image couldn't be more untrue.

Adoption can impact a child's life in many ways. While it once thought that it was best to keep a child's adoption history secret, today adoption is celebrated by families across the world as a positive, beautiful event that makes each adopted child special.

For many generations it was often thought that adoption was a secret to be kept -- that women who placed a child for adoption should never speak of their child, that adoptive families should never share their child's adoption story and that it was in the best interest of the child to be kept in the dark regarding their history. However, this secrecy often lead to hurt, confusion and anger by each member of the "adoption triad" (the birth parents, the child and the adoptive family). This secrecy often cast a large shadow over adoption, often making it a negative aspect of a person's life, rather than a positive one.

However, times have changed. In today's world of adoption adoptive parents are more open about their child's adoption story. Many families even celebrate their child's adoption each year as a family tradition. Many children are taught from their earliest years that they were adopted -- and that being adopted meant they were immensely loved by both their adoptive parents and their birth parents. They are brought up knowing their adoption story from the very beginning and grow up to be proud of the fact that they were adopted and that their birth parents loved them so much that they made that difficult choice to choose adoption. Many are even so touched by their adoption story, that they grow up to be adoption professionals, such as Jennifer, an Adoption Specialist with American Adoptions:

Whether you just began pondering the adoption option or are already certain adoption will allow you to provide the best life for your baby, American Adoptions can help! Receive our free Guide for Women Considering Adoption today!