“If I want to give up my baby for adoption in Arizona, does the birth father have to agree?”
“Can I give up my baby for adoption without the father’s consent to adoption in Arizona?”
“Is adoption an option for me if the birth father is unknown?”
Every adoption situation is different. The relationship between every pregnant woman considering adoption in Arizona and the father of her baby is going to be unique. You may have the full support of the birth father, or you may want to pursue an adoption plan without the birth father’s support.
Following is information about birth father rights in adoption in Arizona and their involvement in Arizona adoptions. If you have additional questions, you can always call 1-800-ADOPTION to speak to an adoption specialist with no obligation.
Birth mothers who have placed a child for adoption with American Adoptions in Arizona have been:
married or in a loving, committed relationship with the father of the baby they placed for adoption
mothers to other children who may share a father or have different fathers
on good terms with the father of the baby, even if they are not in a relationship
unsure of who the father is
not in a healthy relationship with the birth father, which is a common reason for why women choose adoption for their baby.
It is important to remember that regardless of the kind of relationship you have with the birth father, you can still explore adoption in Arizona.
Hopefully, the father of your baby supports and accepts your adoption decision. Sometimes, though, this is not the case. Birth fathers may not be involved, may not be known, or may not be supportive.
No matter what your relationship is with the birth father, start by calling 1-800-ADOPTION. You can talk with an adoption specialist about your unique situation and gain a clearer understanding of the options you have and how to move forward. Remember, it is free to call and there is no obligation to choose adoption. Someone is available 24/7.
In Arizona, adoption without the consent of the father can be possible, but it depends on your individual situation.
Pregnant women should make every attempt to contact the possible father before beginning the adoption process for their child. This can be overwhelming for the mother, so it is best you work with your adoption specialist to help with this process.
There are three ways you can talk to the birth father about your adoption decision:
This is the best way to talk to the birth father about your Arizona adoption plan. Make plans to meet in a calm, quiet and private space. Remain calm, and come prepared with information to help answer his questions about adoption in Arizona. Be respectful of the emotions he’s feeling and processing.
If you are comfortable, ask if he’d like to be involved in creating the adoption plan. He can help with the various steps in the process, including choosing an adoptive family.
If an in-person meeting is not possible, draft a letter or email to the father instead. For some, this may be a better way to clearly communicate your feelings and stay on topic. Be sure to include some educational resources about Arizona adoption for the father to read.
It can be helpful to have your adoption specialist or a trusted friend proofread your letter before you send it. They can make sure you’ve included necessary information, and used a calm, kind tone.
Sometimes it is necessary to have your adoption specialist or attorney speak with the birth father about your pregnancy and adoption plan. If you are worried the conversation will escalate into an argument, or you are generally uncomfortable having the discussion with the father, this may be your best option.
There are instances when you don’t have to inform the birth father about your pregnancy and adoption plan. Call 1-800-ADOPTION to speak with an adoption specialist and find out if this option is legally available to you in Arizona.
Birth fathers have their own role in the adoption process. It is vital that they understand their birth father rights in adoption.
If you are supportive of the adoption and willing to give your consent, you can create a birth father adoption plan with an adoption specialist. This can include working with the baby’s mother to choose an adoptive family for your child, as well as planning post-adoption communication and more.
There are actions you can take if you believe you may be the biological father of a child that is being placed for adoption. Sometimes it is difficult for the birth mom to contact the baby’s biological father, so he may not be aware of the pregnancy and adoption. In this case, putative fathers may file a notice with the Arizona State Registrar of Vital Statistics in the Department of Health Services.
If you object to the birth mother’s adoption decision, you will need to legally establish paternity in court. Typically, you will also need to prove to the court your commitment to parenting the child, including providing for prenatal and birth expenses, as well as the child’s ongoing physical, emotional and financial needs.
To speak with an adoption specialist about birth father rights in Arizona adoptions, call 1-800-ADOPTION for free information and no obligation to choose adoption.
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