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Phil & Lilly

Thank you for taking time to read our profile and learn more about us. We are excited to grow our family and begin this meaningful journey together with a full heart and open mind. We have always wanted to be parents and raise a child in a compassionate, loving, and supportive home. We admire your strength and courage in considering the path of adoption.

About Us

Senior Policy Director
Law Degree
Law Degree
Legally Married

Our Lifestyle

Hiking With Huxley

We live our life based on shared core values of respectful communication, continuous learning, and meaningful relationships with our loved ones. We love spending time together and welcome building new traditions as a family of three. Many Saturdays we take our dog Huxley for a hike and work on home improvement projects. At night we head to the mall for dinner and a movie or attend a performance at one of many nearby venues. We live close to a variety of concert halls and museums that have a lot of programming, including for families with young kids. Sunday mornings are for brunch with Lilly's parents who live nearby or our friends' families. This is followed by having phone dates with Phil's parents and sister, running errands, and cooking big batches of food to prepare for the next week. We also love to travel and explore during weekend road trips, in addition to one big vacation a year.

Aside from our family time, we support each other to have fulfilling careers. Phil works as a real estate attorney and helps clients get development approvals to build new communities. He enjoys a short commute and the ability to work from home. Lilly uses her law degree to work as a health policy analyst on Medicare and Medicaid issues for the elderly; her job has a lot of flexibility for schedule and working from home.

Qualities We Love, Admire and Respect in Each Other

Phil Reading to His Best Friend's Daughter

Lilly About Phil: When we arrived for our blind date 9 years ago, Phil had my attention within minutes when he held up his right hand and asked where in "The Mitten" I'm from—insider knowledge about the shape of my home state of Michigan. His intelligence and kindness left no doubt that this witty New Yorker was for me. Phil is also one of the most loyal and devoted people I've ever met. Not only would he have the patience to read the same bedtime story every night as many times as a child may want, he'll use different voices to keep the experience interesting. I may be the more adventurous half, but Phil is the bedrock that makes our relationship solid.

Lilly Practicing Yoga

Phil About Lilly: I love Lilly's zest for life and can't believe so much energy can be contained in such a petite package! She is always on the hunt for new adventures, whether it's learning a foreign language with a huge stack of flashcards, taking on leadership roles in our community to bring a U.S. Senator to speak about important issues, or joining an all women's golf league and traveling to Scotland. Lilly also gently yet persuasively gets me outside my comfort zone by encouraging me to join her on the dance floor to bust some moves, start a new exercise routine at the gym, and appreciate the importance of a detailed to-do checklist. I am confident that Lilly will embrace parenting with this same enthusiasm to raise a child with love, dedication, and gratitude.

Cultural Diversity

We are committed to a lifelong process of learning and experiencing traditions different than our own. We are fortunate to live near Washington, D.C., which is home to people of many different backgrounds, ethnicities, and faiths. Over half the people in our county are a race other than white, which is reflected in our schools, businesses, and community events.

This child will be introduced to experiences from your heritage, based on any information you are comfortable sharing. We want to find ways to connect with and celebrate the child's roots. For example, we have easy access to a variety of cultural festivals, restaurants, hair salons, and minority-owned businesses. If the child comes from a heritage with another language, such as Spanish, we are committed to making sure the child learns the language from a young age. It is our priority that this child is regularly around other kids and mentors of the same background to foster that connection.

A child’s identity is central who they are, and as a result, this child’s culture will be embraced by us as well. We look forward to blending our own Jewish culture, traditions, and faith with new experiences. As the child grows up, we'll ask what kinds of experiences would help them feel more connected and supported.



Visiting a Nearby Sunflower Field
Visiting a Nearby Sunflower Field
Phil Playing His Cello
Phil Playing His Cello
Visiting Long Island
Visiting Long Island
Lilly Meeting Her Niece
Lilly Meeting Her Niece
Hiking in New Zealand
Hiking in New Zealand
Dressed Up for a Friend's Wedding
Dressed Up for a Friend's Wedding
Lilly Grew Up Baking With Her Mom
Lilly Grew Up Baking With Her Mom
Phil With His Best Friend's Daughter
Phil With His Best Friend's Daughter
Family Photo on the Fourth of July
Family Photo on the Fourth of July
Boat Ride in Hawaii
Boat Ride in Hawaii
At Our Local Farmer's Market
At Our Local Farmer's Market
Celebrating New Year's at the Comedy Club
Celebrating New Year's at the Comedy Club
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Visiting a Nearby Sunflower Field
Visiting a Nearby Sunflower Field
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Phil Playing His Cello
Phil Playing His Cello
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Visiting Long Island
Visiting Long Island
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Lilly Meeting Her Niece
Lilly Meeting Her Niece
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Hiking in New Zealand
Hiking in New Zealand
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Dressed Up for a Friend's Wedding
Dressed Up for a Friend's Wedding
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Lilly Grew Up Baking With Her Mom
Lilly Grew Up Baking With Her Mom
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Phil With His Best Friend's Daughter
Phil With His Best Friend's Daughter
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Family Photo on the Fourth of July
Family Photo on the Fourth of July
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Boat Ride in Hawaii
Boat Ride in Hawaii
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At Our Local Farmer's Market
At Our Local Farmer's Market
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Celebrating New Year's at the Comedy Club
Celebrating New Year's at the Comedy Club

Our House and Neighborhood

Our Home

After we married five years ago, we began house hunting in Maryland near Washington, D.C. As soon as we walked into the sixty year old brick house in a charming residential neighborhood, we immediately knew this was where we wanted to grow our family. The rooms were painted funny colors and the front yard was messy, but we could see all the potential.

We've since remodeled the kitchen, added new landscaping, and painted every room. We've also fenced in the backyard so our dog Huxley can safely run around the playset we inherited. Our four bedroom, two bathroom house is a five minute walk from a well-rated elementary school with a brand new playground. All the students love to pet Huxley and feed him treats on our morning walks. We can also walk to our public library, grocery store and most importantly—our favorite Mexican restaurant! It's a short subway ride into Washington, D.C. or a quick drive to parks with hiking trails.

Our neighborhood is diverse in every way—it is home to people from all over the world and has a great mixture of young families with children and retired folks. Our neighbors on one side are a Haitian multi-generational family who runs a daycare from their home, and on the other side is a friendly Korean widow who loves to feed Huxley her home-grown vegetables.

Our Extended Families

Phil's Family

We both come from very caring families, all of whom are thrilled to welcome a new member to the group.

Phil's love for Lilly was clear when he volunteered to meet her parents for the first time in Michigan during winter in 2011. Despite the freezing weather, he felt quickly at home talking with her parents and brother about current events and world travel. During one of our first times eating at a restaurant together, Phil laughed watching everyone order personal desserts plus an extra round of donuts for the table. Phil's easy-going nature and appreciation for meals with lively conversation fit right in with Lilly's family. We're fortunate to have Lilly's parents nearby so we can continue the family dinner tradition with lots of dessert!

Lilly's Family

Similarly, Lilly was comfortable with Phil's family when she brought a plant as a gift during her first visit and learned that her future in-laws loved gardening as much as she does. Lilly jumped right in sharing the ritual bagel spread with Phil's parents and sister, where Phil's mom always buys more food than they can fit on a table to make sure everyone has leftovers to take home.

In addition to our tight-knit immediate families, Lilly organizes an annual family reunion weekend with about 40 people that includes her 8 cousins plus their 10 kids (and counting!). We get together over barbecue, slip and slide for the kids, and a homemade crossword puzzle with family trivia. We're also thrilled with our tradition of hosting Thanksgiving and have space at the table for more!

From Us to You

Thank you for taking the time to get to know us. We deeply respect your selflessness. We both want more than anything to be parents and to share our lives with a child. After several years of fertility treatment in hopes of having a biological child, we realized that we were not going to be successful. We refocused our efforts from becoming and staying pregnant to becoming parents through adoption. We are so appreciative and in awe of every person who considers creating an adoption plan for her child.

For us, adoption is not just about our desire to be parents. It involves our commitment to consistent love, support, and compassion so a child can reach his or her full God-given potential. We believe it is important that your child has a connection to his or her heritage and develops a valued sense of self. We will build a relationship with a level of openness that makes you comfortable, including regularly sending letters and pictures if you want. Family to us means both relatives and those in our "chosen family" who we trust and cherish. If you decide that we are the right couple to raise your child, then you are welcome in our chosen family.

We've been together nine years and just celebrated our five-year wedding anniversary. We live with our dog Huxley in Maryland near Washington, D.C. Our neighborhood is diverse and family oriented, with great schools, parks, and a library all just a close walk away. We are fortunate to have family and friends in the area who have children and are eager to welcome another little one into the group. Lilly's brother has two young daughters nearby and Phil's sister plans to adopt one day, so this child will have first cousins, in addition to a connection with at least a dozen children from Lilly's extended family.

We're an upbeat couple and complement each other's personalities. Lilly likes to say that she lives her life a mile-wide, inch-deep and Phil is the opposite. Lilly is happy to try 100 new things once and see what sticks. Although Phil is selective in his interests, once he starts something he will not stop until he's an expert. Just as important, we share a dedication to hard work, life-long learning, and perseverance. We are confident that the strength of our relationship, as well as weathering recent challenges like miscarriages and family illnesses, will help us be successful parents.

While our careers are important to us, we make sure to keep a healthy work-life balance and be present for each other. We want to be home to share experiences together with the child. Family always comes first.

We can't plan all the details of what it will mean to parent a child, but we are so excited to offer our unconditional love. We look forward to building new traditions as a family of three and taking advantage of the great resources for kids in our area. We'll go on family walks with Huxley, try new activities including sports and music, and encourage the child to explore his or her passions. We enjoy travel, whether on day trips or longer journeys, and hope for the child to experience the world beyond our neighborhood.

Although moving forward with an adoption plan might not be something either you or we ever expected, we know in our hearts that together we can give your child a wonderful life. Thank you again for your consideration, and please know that you are in our thoughts.

All our love,

Phil & Lilly


Tom Hanks
Bradley Cooper
Meryl Streep
Julia Roberts
F. Scott Fitzgerald
Fredrik Backman
The Great Gatsby
Jane Eyre
Candy Bar
Reese's Peanut Butter Cups
Peppermint Patty
SpongeBob SquarePants
Minnie Mouse
Childhood Memory
Trips to the Beach
Sunday Family Dinners
Childhood Toy
Matchbox Cars
Mr. Bear
Children's Book
Green Eggs and Ham
The Very Hungry Caterpillar
New York
Classic Movie
To Kill A Mockingbird
The Sound of Music
Day of Week
Anything Chocolate
Brownie Sundae
Disney Movie
The Lion King
Beauty and the Beast
Dream Car
BMW M Series
VW Beetle
Dream Job
Airline Pilot
Forest Ranger
Dream Vacation
South Africa
Family Activity
Flower / Plant
Hydrangea flowers
Ice Cream
Form of Exercise
Bench Press
Miniture Golf
Holiday Song
Let it Snow
Santa Baby
Holiday Tradition
Football on Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving Dinner With Both Our Parents
Ice Cream
Ben and Jerry's Half Baked
Junk Food
Tater Tots
Ice Cream
Leisure Activity
Listening to Music
The Atlantic
Memory with a Child
Building Sand Castles with My Sister
When My Nieces Were Born
Memory with Spouse
Hiking in New Zealand
Hiking in New Zealand
Back to the Future
You've Got Mail
Movie Munchie
Peanut M&Ms
Junior Mints
Movie Quote
"The Dude abides." - The Big Lebowski
I thought I'd be engaged by now. I thought by 23, I'd be married, maybe have a kid, corner office by day, entertaining at night. -Up in the Air
Movie Type
Science Fiction
Mary Poppins
Musical Group
The Beach Boys
Nursery Rhyme
The Wheels on the Bus
Twinkle Twinkle Little Star
Olympic Event
Ice Skating
Personal Hero
My Parents
My Dad
A Raisin in the Sun
Walt Whitman
Shel Silverstein
Quality about my Spouse
Sense of Adventure
His Patience
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." - Lao Tzu
"Whatever you are, be a good one." - President Lincoln
Red Robin
Chicken Parmesean
Grilled Cheese
Book of Exodus
Shopping Store
God Only Knows - The Beach Boys
Help -The Beatles
Sport to Play
Sport to Watch
Sports Star
Cal Ripken, Jr.
Simone Biles
Sports Team
New York Islanders
Green Bay Packers
Subject in School
Thing to Cook
Baked Ziti
Mac and Cheese
Time of Day
Bagels at Family Visits
Daily Meditation
TV Show
Keeping up with the Khardashians
TV Show Character
Leslie Knope
Rachel from Friends
Type of Music
Folk Rock
Vacation Spot
The Mountains
The Great Lakes
Video Game
Super Mario Kart

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