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Nathan & Jamala
Thank you for viewing our profile! We understand that you have made a selfless decision to be on this journey with us, and we appreciate that you are considering us as potential parents for your child. We are a loving and committed couple, and we can't wait to share our love and support with a child. We really appreciate the opportunity to share our lives with you.
Why We Chose Adoption
It has been said that having children is like watching your heart walk around outside your body. For us, this is true in so many ways. Our journey to being parents has been an out of body experience both physically and emotionally. For us, the reality has always been that our children would be conceived outside of us.
We did six cycles of IVF before we finally got pregnant with our son. Our pregnancy was difficult and in the moments between frequent doctor's appointments, it was blissful to experience our son growing. He was such a funny little boy and it was hard to believe he was sick. He was diagnosed with a congenital heart defect in our anatomy scan.
Our son was born at 34.5 weeks in February 2020. He weighed 5 lbs., 15 oz and measured 16.4 inches. After several procedures for his lungs, he died peacefully in our arms. Our son is our greatest gift and his death our saddest moment. In losing our son, a part of our heart walks around in heaven. We are parents in the most tragically beautiful way to a most wonderful son.
Because we got pregnant via IVF and because of other complications, we always knew that Jamala would only be able to carry one pregnancy. While we were pregnant with our son, we talked about adoption to have more children. We know that adoption is the way we are meant to grow our family and we are excited to be on this journey!
Our Leisure Time
On our first date, we played tennis and it continues to be one of our favorite activities, including league play, recreation tournaments, and also traveling to watch professional tournaments. We have been to the U.S. Open, the Australian Open, and several other tournaments.
Nathan grew up playing baseball, played in college, and still enjoys coaching children's leagues. We also enjoy going to baseball games for a local team, as well as to Washington Nationals games.
We have a close-knit group of friends. We enjoy doing things with them like going out to dinner, hosting Friendsgiving, progressive dinners with our neighbors, and cook outs. We also have friends from college and family all over the country and world, and we enjoy visiting them or hosting them in our home.
We enjoy being active and being outside, traveling and experiencing new things. Hiking and going for walks is one of the things we love to do when we visit a new place or even locally.
We also enjoy quiet time at home, making meals together, working on a puzzle, reading or watching our favorite shows together. Jamala enjoys writing and crafting, and recently started doing embroidery. Nathan takes great pride in our yard and garden, and keeps them looking neat and beautiful.
We can't wait to have a child in our lives and share these experiences and more!
What Makes Us Unique
Individually, we have had diverse experiences growing up: Nathan's dad was in the Navy, so although he was born in Washington state, he grew up in Japan, Hawaii, and finished high school in Virginia. Jamala was born in Barbados, moved to Canada for university, before moving to America.
Not only have we had the experience of living in many countries, we are also an interracial couple (black/white). Our unique backgrounds help us to be culturally curious, empathetic to each other, and open minded with others.
We have been together for 7 years and married for 5 years. We waited until our 30s to find each other, which makes us secure in who we are as individuals, and appreciative of our togetherness - we believe that we were chosen for each other and for this journey.
Together, we have faced challenges that have only made us stronger: Through infertility and child loss, we have pulled together and held each other up. We hate that we have experienced the loss of a child, but we feel lucky to have each other. We are stronger, and we are survivors. We think our experiences help us approach adoption with eyes wide open to support this child and build a relationship with you.
Our House and Neighborhood
We live in Virginia and built our dream house in 2016, with growing our family in mind. Our house is in a quiet cul-de-sac, on a semi-wooded half acre lot with a large backyard. It is a 3,600 sq. ft., craftsman style house with a wraparound front porch. On the second level, we have four bedrooms and three bathrooms, including jack-and-jill rooms across the hall from the master bedroom. One room is already set up as a furnished nursery. The third floor has a rec room with a full bathroom.
Our neighborhood is very family friendly and has a network of walking trails, a dog park, a catch and release fishing pond, a club house with a pool and a playground. There is a weekly newsletter with lots of family friendly activities to enjoy with our neighbors. There are several public parks about 15 minutes away as well.
We also have a beach front vacation condo in North Carolina. It has two bedrooms and two bathrooms. We enjoy spending time there – enjoying the sun rise, walking our dog, and eating fresh seafood - especially in the off season when it is less crowded.
Our Extended Families
We come from large families, and although most of them don't live nearby, we are very close to them and visit often. This child will have many opportunities to receive the doting attention of grandparents and cousins!
Nathan grew up as an only child, but embraced gaining two step-sisters in his early 20s. If you saw them all together, you'd think they knew each other their entire lives! Nathan is very close with his father, who stood as his best man in our wedding.
Jamala has two younger brothers and a younger sister. Although they live in different countries, we are very close. In fact, Jamala's siblings were the only ones in her bridal party, with one brother serving as man of honor.
We enjoy visiting our family in Barbados and Washington state, where we have lots of aunts and uncles and cousins. These reunions are always a gift, and we look forward to time at the beach in Barbados and on the farm in Washington.
Nathan's dad, step-mom, sisters and their families live close by, so we celebrate birthdays and holidays with them, and enjoy impromptu get togethers. We have two nieces and a nephew and enjoy playing and spending time with them, especially visits to the Science Museum of Virginia.
Jamala's mom primarily lives in Barbados but makes extended visits for many months at a time, and so she is very involved in our lives.
We also have a dog, Sadie, who loves children and snuggles!
From Us to You
Thank you so much for considering us to parent your child. We can only imagine how difficult this decision is for you. We wish you peace with your decision and in this journey.
We want you to know that if you decided to choose us to parent your child, they would be coming to a most secure and loving home. We would raise a child to be well rounded, appreciating education as well as sports, travel as well as the joy of a good book, and holding kindness as a core value. You have our word that we will cherish and love your child with all our heart and soul and we will do everything to provide a safe, happy home and wonderful life.
If you gave us the privilege of parenting your child, please know that we always want to be considerate of your role in our family. It is important to us that your child knows where they came from and knows who you are. We promise that they will know that this decision was not easy for you and was made from a place of love and selflessness. We would love to send you letters, emails and pictures of your child as they grow up and arrange visits every few years.
We have been together for 7 years. We met in our 30s so we had time to know ourselves separately as individuals, and actively chose each other for the right reasons. Although we worked at the same company, we were introduced by Jamala's best friend – she had been married for 10 years to a lovely husband, so Jamala trusted her recommendation of Nathan! On our first date we played tennis and have been together ever since. We have been married for 5 years, and we continue to choose each other every day.
We have always wanted to have children and started trying soon after we got married. After many years and complications, we were blessed to become parents to our son in early 2020, but sadly he passed away soon after he was born. We miss him dearly. At the same time, our fleeting experience with parenthood solidified for us that we do want to be parents again. We have so much love to give a child.
We have a lot of support from our family and friends on this journey to grow our family through adoption. Nathan's parents and sisters live close by, and we see them often. Our network of friends is tight knit, and most of them have children that would make wonderful playmates for a child.
Thank you again for considering us to parent your child. We hold you and your child in our thoughts and prayers, and wish you peace in your decision.
Nathan & Jamala