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Steve & Heather
We love our little family of four, but it feels like someone is missing. We have seen first hand how wonderful the gift of adoption can be and decided that this was our path to complete our family. We appreciate you taking the time to view our profile and have no doubt that we will provide a stable, loving, fun-filled home with two of the best big brothers you could want!
Why We Chose Adoption
Heather has a reproductive condition that increases her risk of infertility. Knowing this, Heather was under the assumption that she would have to adopt in order to become a parent. So much in fact, that when she was 28, she became a licensed foster parent as a single woman. When we met each other in our 30's, and we decided to get married, we assumed that infertility was going to be something we faced. Fortunately, we were able to conceive two children with no difficulty. Since we were able to conceive our biological children naturally, we thought adoption might not be our path to parenthood as previously thought. After we tried and failed to conceive a third child, we came to the conclusion that we were going to be a family of four, but struggled to accept it. We both feel strongly that someone important is missing from our family and have decided that adoption is the route to take. We have seen how wonderful the gift of adoption can be: we both have family and friends who have been positively impacted by adoption. We have seen how biological families, adopting families, and children can come together to mutually benefit everyone. So we decided to find that missing someone and are now hoping to be matched, connecting two families forever through the mutual love of a child.
Our Leisure Time
Due to Heather's fantastic work schedule, we have many opportunities for quality time. She does not work weekends or holidays and has at least one weekday off per week. Her days off usually mean family fun time!
We live close to a great zoo and have a season pass, so we frequently go there just to stroll around and explore. We usually pack a lunch and make a day of it!
We go camping several times a year at one the many camp sites in our state.
Our county has a wonderful parks system that features hiking and biking trails, playground equipment, swimming ponds, and pools. We go to a lot of parks! Bike rides are a must in the summer. Our oldest will transition to his own bike soon so our youngest will need another copilot in the bike trailer!
While at home, we read lots of books, play with trains, do arts/crafts, and have movie nights. We spend a lot of time in our large fenced-in backyard complete with play gym. We have even been known to set up a tent and camp outside... just because! Even in the cooler months, we spend a lot of time outside, playing in the leaves, building snowmen, or hitting up a park.
Fun Facts About Us:
Our House and Neighborhood
Our suburban neighborhood is known for its many parks, biking trails, and top-rated schools. Our home has four bedrooms and three baths. It has a three-seasons porch which looks out into our large fenced-in yard with a playset. In the warmer months, Heather loves to read out there as the kids play.
We've lived here three years and have come to know our neighbors well. Steve, as a stay-at-home dad, has had the opportunity to cultivate these relationships. "Omi" lives kitty-corner to us and loves to feed treats to our kids and dog. "Auntie Kay" lives behind us. She has a pool that we frequent in the summer. A block away is Heather's co-worker and friend, who has four children. We rely on each other for child care needs and hang out often. It is the type of neighborhood where, when you walk by someone you don't know, you wave, say hi, and often strike up conversation. Kids play safely in the streets and there is a neighborhood park where we often congregate to play kickball or baseball. There are also two community pools nearby and lots of year-round community programs for kids through the library and park systems.
Our Extended Families
What probably sticks out the most with Steve's family is the size. He is the sixth oldest of eight kids. There are a total of 31 nieces and nephews and still growing! Our family gets along very well and we try to get together whenever possible. Three of Steve's brothers, a sister, his dad and stepmom all live relatively close in Wisconsin, with remaining families living in Texas and Florida. Each year, Steve's oldest brother hosts a week-long family reunion/summer camp at his property in the country. The kids and adults enjoy just about anything you can think of: volleyball, soccer, football, wiffle ball, bike-riding, games, crafting, go-carts, hiking, swimming, playing musical instruments, campfires, etc. It is a great time for everyone to re-connect.
Heather's side of the family is smaller but still full of love! We see her parents, Nana and Papa, about once a month where they get some undivided attention! They have 128 acres in central Illinois, where we love to explore, feed/ride the horses, go on ATV rides in the woods, play with their dog, cats, and eat Nana's cooking.
We have seen firsthand the blessing of adoption. Steve's brother and sister have each adopted a child and our family is more complete because of them. One of the adoptions is open. Our niece's birth family has been welcomed with open arms into our fold. Needless to say, they are excited and supportive of our decision to adopt!
From Us to You
Thank you for taking the time to review our profile. We understand that while we are excited to grow our family through adoption, we acknowledge that you may be struggling with the decision to parent or adopt, which just shows the love you have for your child. Here is a little more information on our family as you wrestle with that decision.
We had what we call a "whirlwind romance." We were engaged 6 months after our first date, and 6 months later we were married on Heather's parents' farm, almost a year to the day of our first date. We have been together almost 5 years. We knew we wanted children but were unsure if our path to parenthood would include biological children and/or adopted children. We were sure, however, that we envisioned having three children and set up our lives in anticipation of this. Heather, at a young age, was diagnosed with a fertility issue that can prevent some women from conceiving. Knowing this, we had discussed, accepted and welcomed the idea of adoption as a blessing for our family, especially since we have seen firsthand how wonderful this journey can be. Steve's older sister and her husband adopted a baby girl while his older brother and his wife adopted a son. Fortunately, we were able to conceive with little difficulty despite our age and Heather's diagnosis. We now have two beautiful boys. We tried for a third child but after trying for 10 months, we decided to return to our original plan of adopting to complete our family of five. We are looking forward to adding a new little one to our family and are confident that our boys will be great big brothers and will welcome a new sibling with open arms.
Our core value we hold dear is family. We make small and large decisions every day with this in mind. Our dynamic is what we like to call "traditionally untraditional." Steve opted to leave his job when our oldest was born and become a stay-at-home dad extraordinaire. And that he is, in so many ways. Heather works at a nearby hospital as an oncology nurse and service coordinator for their bone marrow transplant program. She works four days a week, 10 hour days. She does not work weekends or holidays and has a rotating day off each week, which allows us to spend lots of time together as a family. On these days, we do something fun like go to the zoo, take a long bike ride, or go to the pool. Before the pandemic, Steve and the boys would visit Heather every day for lunch. Heather's co-workers and patients became accustomed to seeing us and became invested in our little family. Once they were no longer permitted to visit the hospital, they would pick Heather up and go to a nearby park for lunch. Now that it is winter, we FaceTime for lunch. We are looking forward to returning to our lunch dates when the pandemic is over. Heather's co-workers and patients would be so delighted to see we have added to our family.
We are hoping to have an open relationship with our birth family and are flexible with what that may mean. We look forward to navigating and defining this relationship with you. Whether that is sending letters and pictures, exchanging phone numbers for calls and texts, sharing email addresses and/or setting up visits, we embrace the possibility of you becoming a permanent part of our lives. We want what is best for the child and believe that a connection to his or her birth family may be vital to the child's wellbeing.
Whatever your decision is, know that we appreciate you looking at our profile and wish you well through this process. If our paths do cross because you think we are a match, know that we are confident our family, both immediate and extended, will provide an amazing life for your child with your involvement. They will be loved, supported, and accepted beyond measure! Blessings to you on this journey.
Steve & Heather