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Matthew & Lucas

We are so excited to be on this adoption journey again! Adoption is a precious gift that we deeply respect. Thank you for taking the time to look at our profile. It means a lot that you would consider us to be your child's parents. We look forward to sharing love, laughter, and life lessons with our expanded family.

About Us

Ballet Master
Vocal Director
Some College - Studied Accounting
Master's Degree in Vocal Music Education
Legally Married

Adoption in Our Lives

Trio of Smiles

Adoption has already touched our lives in the most wonderful way. Our 2-year-old son, Ramsey, brings joy to our lives on a daily basis. From the start, he has proven to be quite sweet and loving. He is playful, strong, curious, and he loves to laugh! One time he played so hard that he fell asleep standing up in his hopper! From story time to bath time, meal time to bed time, Ramsey shows us how smart and fearless he is. Ramsey recently had a great time splashing and playing in his pool out in the yard. He likes to play with his toys (sometimes all at once!), and he already has an extensive library of his favorite books (like anything by author Sandra Boynton.) Ramsey likes to explore colors, shapes, and the sounds that different animals make - sometimes all the animals "moo" like the cow, but that's OK! It's easy for him to make friends wherever we go because of his beautiful smile and the fact that he loves to wave "Hello!"

Fun Facts About Us:

Ramsey's Drive-By Baby Shower

  • We both have traveled to several foreign countries; 12 different countries between the two of us!
  • Luke started running about 3 years ago and has worn through 10 pairs of running shoes.
  • Luke participated in 4H as a kid and can tell you lots of surprising facts about raising cows, sheep, and pigs.
  • Matthew won a scholarship to a prominent boarding school for dance when he was 15 years old.
  • Luke is also a composer of choral music. His songs have won awards in composition contests and have been performed by several groups around the Midwest.
  • Matthew ran his own dance studio business for 10 years.
  • At 6'8" tall, it's easy to spot Luke in a crowd.
  • We held a brunch wedding on a Sunday in which our friends and family had breakfast, mimosas, we got married, and everyone celebrated...all before noon.
  • Because our son, Ramsey, was born during the pandemic, we had a socially distanced "Beep Beep" Drive-By baby shower. From drive through party favors to a diaper toss game-it was a hit!
  • Cultural Diversity

    As gay men with a black son, we already find ourselves in the margin of society. In our own lives and as a married couple, we've navigated the terrain of being outside the norm. We understand what it's like to be different. We also understand what it's like to be misunderstood and not accepted because of it. However, we have surrounded ourselves with like-minded friends and family who support us and celebrate our differences. Our guide for sharing cultural diversity with a child can be our own journey towards acceptance and understanding. As the child grows older, we can share more regarding the nature of families with two dads, two moms, a dad, a mom, or a mom and dad. We can also be open and honest about the fact that a family can be strong, nurturing and normal - no matter the color of our skin, where we came from, or who makes up our family.


    Happy Together
    Happy Together
    Meeting Ramsey in the Hospital
    Meeting Ramsey in the Hospital
    Luke Conducting the Choir
    Luke Conducting the Choir
    Luke & His Running Friends
    Luke & His Running Friends
    At a Broadway Tour
    At a Broadway Tour
    Matthew Performing in The Nutcracker
    Matthew Performing in The Nutcracker
    Carousel Ride at Universal Studios
    Carousel Ride at Universal Studios
    On the Coast in Maine
    On the Coast in Maine
    All Smiles
    All Smiles
    Luke at Our Niece's Birthday Party
    Luke at Our Niece's Birthday Party
    Matthew Teaching Jazzercise
    Matthew Teaching Jazzercise
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    Happy Together
    Happy Together
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    Meeting Ramsey in the Hospital
    Meeting Ramsey in the Hospital
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    Luke Conducting the Choir
    Luke Conducting the Choir
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    Luke & His Running Friends
    Luke & His Running Friends
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    At a Broadway Tour
    At a Broadway Tour
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    Matthew Performing in The Nutcracker
    Matthew Performing in The Nutcracker
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    Carousel Ride at Universal Studios
    Carousel Ride at Universal Studios
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    On the Coast in Maine
    On the Coast in Maine
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    All Smiles
    All Smiles
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    Luke at Our Niece's Birthday Party
    Luke at Our Niece's Birthday Party
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    Matthew Teaching Jazzercise
    Matthew Teaching Jazzercise

    Our House and Neighborhood

    Our Home

    We live in a mid-size city in Iowa that is only a short drive away from many metropolitan areas. Luke is employed at his alma mater, where his friendship circle is strong. Matthew has made strong connections with his work family, and we all find ourselves enjoying pool time, cookouts, ball games, bonfires, and gatherings with these wonderful friends.

    Our in-home daycare provider has an intimate setting with 6 children. Our son, Ramsey, enjoys trips to the splash pad, nature center, petting zoo, and science center! We have grown close with these families as we have all received lots of love and attention.

    Luke & Our Nephew at the Neighborhood Pool

    Our traditional 2-story home is centrally located where we can get almost anywhere in town in 10 minutes. The front and back yards are perfect for our grill, picnic table, lounge chairs, slide and swing set. Matthew loves to be in the kitchen (where he cooks and bakes almost every day), while Luke is often found in the downstairs den (where his piano keyboard and treadmill are located.)

    There are several community pools and family parks in our neighborhood. The Museum of Art and African American Museum of Iowa both offer awesome programming for kids. Our local elementary school takes its slogan to heart ("Every learner, future ready") by offering a wide variety of enrichment opportunities for kids, from choir to book club to intramurals.

    Our Extended Families

    Grandma Donna

    Our chosen family has grown to include the children of many of our close friends. Also, we visit with our niece and nephews regularly. We love taking them to the zoo, neighborhood pool, movies, game night, and out for ice cream. Bed time stories are a must with our family and friends!

    This summer we had a great time with Matthew's brother and his family celebrating grandma and grandpa's 50th wedding anniversary. We also had some fun afternoons playing at the park with Luke's sister's family.

    With Adam & Camilo

    Though both sets of grandparents live further away, weekly phone calls and frequent visits keep them engaged in our lives. Both Luke and Matthew's parents love grandchildren and have been very supportive in our journey so far.

    Our friends play a major role in supporting us as well. "Grandma Kathi" is our fairy godmother; "Aunt April" is always sharing her talents; "Uncles" Adam and Camilo have a special bond with our son, Ramsey; and countless others who shower us with love, advice, and a bite to eat!

    From Us to You

    Hi! This may be a strange way to start a letter, but since we don't know your name, we'll just begin this way... You're looking for a wonderful home and future for your baby, and we're looking to share our love and lives with a child. Perhaps we're looking for each other? We understand that this is a difficult time for you. We also understand the wide range of emotions that you must be feeling with the adoption process. We too have experienced the ups and downs of the journey towards adoption. Once we connect and get to know each other a little, it will become more real and less scary. Please know that we are good people with only the best intentions for both you and your baby. It is our aim and goal to stay connected with birth parents who choose us in their adoption plan. We will send letters, updates, and pictures on a semi-annual basis so you are content and blissfully aware of how the little one is doing.

    We'd like to share a little of our story with you. We have been married for three years and together for five years. Like so many couples these days, we met online. A three hour first date over breakfast led to constant conversation, texting, and further dates. It was adjacent to love at first sight, maybe extreme like at first sight? Only a few short months led us to our engagement where we were well on our way to our "forever." One of our earliest conversation starters was whether or not we wanted children. We both discovered a need and a desire to bring children into our family fold. We love each other deeply and have so enjoyed building traditions as a couple. We are also excited and hopeful for continuing those traditions and seeing them evolve as our family expands.

    Our families are loving and supportive of our adoption journey. They all look forward to supporting us as our family grows. From far and near, we are and will continue to be connected to them through this great time in our lives.

    We have many friends and family that have children. We have three nephews and a niece that bring us great joy. We love spending time with them during visits, holidays, and vacations. Each of the kids have their own special bond with us that we have come to treasure greatly every time we are together. Of course, we also have our son, Ramsey. There isn't a single aspect of raising him that we have not enjoyed. Meals, bed time, play time, bath time-we love it all (probably because Ramsey is so adventurous and smiley!) Everything is fun with a little cuddle bug!

    As a gay couple, we have many close friends who have become our chosen family. Many of their children have become like surrogate nieces and nephews to us as well. We get our fair share of birthday parties, music programs, athletic events, and other momentous gatherings that keep us connected as friend families do.

    This is just a small window into our lives, but we hope to continue to share more when the time is right and hope you'll consider us during this incredibly emotional and selfless decision you are contemplating right now. Thank you so much for your time.


    Matthew & Lucas


    Timothee Chalamet
    John Krasinski
    Cate Blanchett
    Emma Stone
    Bart Yates
    John Green
    Leave Myself Behind
    The Fault In Our Stars
    Candy Bar
    Bugs Bunny
    Bugs Bunny
    Childhood Memory
    summer time picnics at Grandpa's cottage
    Riding bikes at the creek
    Childhood Toy
    Tiny kitchen set
    Cabbage Patch doll
    Children's Book
    The Giving Tree
    I Love You Forever
    New York City
    Classic Movie
    Easter Parade
    The Sound of Music
    Day of Week
    Disney Movie
    Beauty & The Beast
    Sleeping Beauty
    Dream Car
    Lincoln Navigator
    Dream Job
    Director of the New York City Ballet
    Broadway star
    Dream Vacation
    Cruise on the Grand Mediterranean
    Family Activity
    Playing cards
    Flower / Plant
    Lilly of the Valley
    Form of Exercise
    Cross stitch
    Holiday Song
    The Christmas Song
    Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas
    Holiday Tradition
    Making candy cane stolen
    Christmas caroling
    Ice Cream
    Chocolate chip cookie dough
    Mint chocolate chip
    Junk Food
    Gummy bears
    Sour patch watermelons
    Leisure Activity
    Memory with a Child
    1st time in the kiddie pool
    Meal time
    Memory with Spouse
    Hiking in Maine
    New England cruise
    Call Me By Your Name
    Movie Munchie
    Junior Mints
    Milk Duds
    Movie Quote
    Elise...your lips?!
    But enough about me, let's talk about you...what do you think of me?
    Movie Type
    Dear Evan Hansen
    Musical Group
    Kings of Leon
    Nursery Rhyme
    Wheels On The Bus
    Hey Diddle Diddle
    Olympic Event
    Figure skating
    Personal Hero
    My first dance teacher
    College voice teacher
    Who's Afraid of Virginia Wolf?
    The Importance of Being Earnest
    Walt Whitman
    Sara Teasdale
    Quality about my Spouse
    Ability to stay calm in any situation
    If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got.
    Be like a duck; quiet and unruffled on the surface, but paddling like crazy underneath
    Olive Garden
    Raising Cane's
    Pork tenderloin
    Love Is Patient
    Love Is Patient
    Shopping Store
    I Think It's Gonna Rain Today
    Sport to Play
    Mini golf
    Sport to Watch
    Sports Star
    Cristiano Ronaldo
    Serena Williams
    Sports Team
    Buffalo Bills
    Miami Dolphins
    Subject in School
    Wonder Woman
    Captain America
    Thing to Cook
    Time of Day
    Early morning
    Early evening
    Pick your favorite meal on your birthday
    Decorating for the holidays
    TV Show
    Golden Girls
    The Office
    TV Show Character
    Jessica Fletcher from Murder She Wrote
    Jim from the Office
    Type of Music
    Vacation Spot
    Video Game
    Super Maria Bros.
    Super Mario Bros. II

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