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Matthew & Kaitlin
We believe that adoption is an honor and a merging of families through the love for a child. Thank you for taking the time to look at our profile. Choosing us to be the parents to your child would mean the world to us. We are proud of the life we share together and are excited to grow our family. We look forward to sharing our lives with you and getting to know you.
Our Leisure Time
Kaitlin enjoys going to the gym, doing yoga, and hiking in her leisure time. She usually takes her camera with her on hikes and practices macrophotography (close-up photography of small subjects). Kaitlin also really enjoys cooking and meal planning for the week, spending time with pets, and spending time with friends.
Matthew enjoys competitive running and runs several miles each morning. He is exploring new hobbies including woodworking and gardening, and has built some simple furnishings and grown vegetables and fruits in our patio garden. Matthew also enjoys playing with our dog and taking him (and sometimes even our cat!) for long walks.
Most of all, we enjoy spending time together and with our pets. On a typical weekend, we'll go for a hike near our home or stroll downtown, or take a day trip to explore further away. We take 1-2 week-long vacations a year with relaxed itineraries that leave time to seize unexpected opportunities. Our favorite vacations have been to national parks, to amusement parks with friends, and trips that coincide with local events. Kaitlin loves identifying wildlife while on hikes, and has taught Matthew a few tricks like how to find banana slugs based on plant matter and slime trails. Our shared love for nature prompts us to make ethical decisions in our lives; for example, we will always research a product's impact on the environment before purchasing and try to do our part in reducing our carbon footprint.
We Welcome an Open Adoption
Kaitlin's lifelong best friend was adopted in an open adoption in 1990 and she witnessed the benefits of an adopted child being connected to their birth family at all stages of their life. Growing up, even though her birth family lived across the country, she always knew that she could call her birth mother to ask questions or plan visits. As an adult, she continues to keep in touch with her birth family and even met a new half-sister. In contrast, Kaitlin also had another childhood friend who was adopted and didn't know her birth parents. This friend at times struggled with the many unknowns and questions that she could never ask.
Knowing this but also being sensitive to any situation, we want to have an open adoption that our child's birth parents are comfortable with. We will never ask too much of you. At the end of the day, you are a part of our child's family and upbringing. We hope to share important milestones and keep in touch. We also intend to raise our child with full knowledge that they are adopted and loved by us and their birth parents. We are open to discussing your needs and desires.
Kaitlin works for a nonprofit foundation that focuses on providing education on diversity, equality, and inclusiveness in professional sports. This job provides a lot of educational resources on a wide variety of cultures and how to address and defend victims of racism. Sharing this knowledge with each other and committing to learning more every day, we feel confident in our ability to raise a child to be proud of their culture. We hope to be involved with our local community to keep our child connected with people they can relate to. Specifically, we can look for doctors of the same race, attend church with a diverse community, and seek out other mentors with similar backgrounds.
We hope that our child's birth parents will also be involved, so they will feel connected to their roots. We believe in an accepting, inclusive household and cannot wait to share this love with our child and their birth parents.
Our House and Neighborhood
We live in a two story, two bedroom townhouse in California. Our child will have their own bedroom and bathroom with plenty of space to run around with their toys. Our favorite room in the house is our living room, where we have a large rug that is used to play with our pets and a comfortable couch for family movie nights. We also have a nice patio where Matthew enjoys tending to a small garden; we have enjoyed many fresh vegetables from it.
Our neighborhood is small and diverse with a mixture of young families and retirees. Our neighbors' kids enjoy coming out to play with our dog, Meeko, and throwing the frisbee for him. We also have a community pool next to our townhouse that is accessed by key.
Our neighborhood is right next to an elementary school. On weekends the playground is open to the public and many families enjoy taking their children there to play. We also live less than a mile away from a large park with multiple playgrounds, a pool and splash pad for tiny tots, and a wildlife rescue center. There are also many safe areas to hike in our community.
The local community is vibrant with festivals, parades, and numerous clubs and organizations. In addition, our Coast Guard community is very supportive of families no matter where we are stationed. The local base hosts events throughout the year for families like carnivals and trunk-or-treat.
Our Extended Families
Kaitlin's parents and her sister's family live in North Carolina, as well as most of her large extended family including many cousins. Every year during the Christmas season, Kaitlin's entire extended family gets together for a traditional Christmas dinner at a local restaurant in Raleigh. This is Kaitlin's favorite family tradition because of the holiday cheer and the opportunity to see cousins that have spread out across the country.
Matthew's parents live in South Carolina and his two brothers and their families live in Michigan and Pennsylvania. We get together about every year for a week just to spend time together. We cook big meals, play games, and enjoy outdoor activities with our several young nieces and nephews. When we get together for Christmas, we'll all attend Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve, and on Christmas Day have brunch, open gifts around the tree, and prepare a festive dinner.
We keep in touch with our families regularly by phone and video chat, and periodically organize virtual game nights with our siblings. Both of our families are excited and supportive of our adoption plan. One of Matthew's grandmothers was adopted so our adoption journey has special meaning for many in our extended family.
From Us to You
This is a challenging letter to write to someone we have not met, and it is hard to give full insight into our lives to someone making the most difficult decision of their life. It is our hope that the pathways we have each taken in our lives have led us to find each other. The decision before you is not an easy one and it is a decision we respect and hope to be a part of. Please know that we are grateful for the chance to get to know you and support you. We have so much love to give and hope to have this opportunity, not just to give love to your child but to you as well.
In our family we value honesty and open communication. Your child will live in an inclusive, judgement free home and they will hear about the heroic choices their birth parent(s) made on his or her behalf from the very beginning. We value honesty and structure in our home but never take ourselves too seriously. We are a playful couple who are comfortable enough to be silly in front of each other; whether it be singing in the kitchen or jumping around in our Simpson's onesies! We often try to envision how much we will enjoy sharing our simple, joyful moments with our future child.
We take education seriously in our home and will promote learning in a healthy environment. We will provide the best educational opportunities for your child that we can. Importantly, we will ensure your child receives a well-rounded education that includes their own culture and cultural history, and we will keep them connected to any community they are a part of.
We met in the summer of 2017 in Wilmington, North Carolina. Matthew was stationed on a Coast Guard ship and Kaitlin was working at the local aquarium. Matthew deployed every few months but we kept in touch daily with each other. Matthew would share experiences of his travels and Kaitlin would share funny work stories about the bald eagle she was training. Matthew proposed on Kaitlin's birthday in March of 2019 at the state park where they hiked on their third date. Our wedding took place with friends and family in December of 2019, and we have been loving every moment of our lives together ever since. Matthew's current position in California is on land and is perfectly timed to welcome a child into our family.
If we had one word to describe ourselves this past year, we would use resilient. In January of 2021, Kaitlin almost passed away from an ectopic pregnancy rupture. After the surgery and loss, we were both feeling weak from the traumatic experience. Everyone has struggles that are unique to their lives and if there is one thing we have learned from our loss it is the compassion for the experiences of others. We are grateful for the opportunity to be alive and together, and for the opportunity to build our family through the unique and exciting path of adoption. While your and our experiences will be vastly different during this process, please know that we are here to support you. We have found strength, love and support in each other and hope to have the opportunity to do the same for you and your child.
Your wishes and needs for the relationship you have with your child are very important to us. We want your child to have a connection to their roots and their culture. We are open and look forward to discussing your communication needs with your child. While we may be required to move with the military through the years until Matthew retires, this will not affect the stability of your relationship with your child. We are committed to providing a healthy, happy life for your child and look forward to getting to know you.
Matthew & Kaitlin