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Sharon's Adoption Story

It has been 2 1/2 months since my beautiful daughter was born. I had no doubts that the couple I picked were perfect. I recently got my first set of pictures. She is so adorable. 

I am not the typical birth mother. I just turned 41 last week. I have 3 children at home. My oldest is 19 1/2. Two younger ones 12 and 9. I would have expected grandchildren before another baby of my own. I didn't have a long term relationship with the father. Becoming pregnant wasn't anything either us were ready for, like many men, the father wasn't interested in the baby at all. I couldn't manage 4 kids alone at this time in my life. I knew I wasn't prepared to give her the love attention and life she deserved. 

I love her with all my heart just like my other kids. The life she has now will be charmed. Her mom and dad think the sun rises and sets for her. It was the hardest thing that I have ever done. It truely broke my heart. The loss does get better. It is hard to prepare for the feelings you have afterwards. Your mind knows that you are doing the right thing but sometimes your heart needs some time to catch up. I still have days that I cry for Emma Sophia. Some days I just look at her photos and cry, a mixture of sadness and joy. I see the love in the photos they share already and she is still such a tiny baby. I know that she will always be the apple of their eyes. 

I changed at least three peoples lives for the better! Her adoptive parents, Steve and Adriana, and of course our daughter Emma. That is the most wonderful feeling, I can't describe it verbally. How often can you make a gift to someone that has such an impact. A forever impact! I love all three of them. I feel such love for her parents like they are my family now. I miss my daughter so much but I am equally proud of my choices. I look at those beautiful blue eyes of hers and wonder how anyone could consider abortion when after a little inconvience you could make such a precious choice. I couldn't be more proud of my life. I thought I would be ashamed but it is totally the opposite. I am going back to college next month and I am changing my major to social work. I want to help other people with life's hardest choices. I think I am in a unique position to show them that you can always turn lemons into lemonade.   Birthmother 2008, Sharon

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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