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Samantha's Adoption Story

I found out I was pregnant in July of 2008. I was 18 years old and hopping from house to house. The father (who’s basement I was living in at the time) was 20 years old and severely addicted to drugs, as was I. Later he admitted that he tried to get me pregnant because he thought I would marry him if I did. For the first month I was scared and had no idea what I was going to do. I finally told my parents and they immediately took me out my situation and gave me a place to stay. My mother was the person who first talked to me about adoption.

I rejected the idea until she took me into American Adoptions and I met Emily, my case worker. Slowly, I started to realize that if I wanted the best life for my baby, I would have to put her in a better environment where she could have two strong parents and be provided for properly.

Despite threats from the birthfather and the disapproval of others, I decided to proceed with the adoption process. Emily made everything very comfortable for me, even when I had to wait until my seventh month to pick the parents. The first couple I chose ended up not working out. I found Ben and Kellie only a few weeks before the birth. I instantly fell in love with them and knew that I wanted them to raise my baby.

At the hospital, I was completely confident in my decision, bit it didn’t hit me until I actually saw her face and signed the papers that I was not going to be my daughter’s mother. But I also knew that I was being the best mother I could be by giving her a better life filled with so many more possibilities than I could provide.

My daughter saved my life, and I like to think that I saved hers. Bringing a child into this world has taught me more that I ever would have imagined. The whole experience has given me a chance to start over and I will never let it go to waste.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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