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"That's All That Matters" - How Kimberly Knows She Did the Best Thing for Her Baby

Kimberly is a brave birth mother who chose adoption to give her baby a life full of love and opportunities. If you feel inspired by her story, contact us today or call 1-800-ADOPTION to get free information about the adoption process.

I knew that I was pregnant right away and was devastated. Being a single mother, unemployed and on welfare, I knew having another child would take more than I was able to give financially and emotionally. My daughter is five years old and the result of an abusive relationship. When she was born, I found the strength to leave and go back to school to better our lives. I faced many challenges throughout the years, and by the time I became pregnant again, my life was a mess. I had made the mistake of letting my daughter's father back into my life for my daughter's sake. He was there and then gone after a few weeks, and I was left to mend my daughter's broken heart and with another child on the way.

At first, I was convinced an abortion was the answer, but as time went on, I couldn't bring myself to make that appointment, and then as the deadline passed, I knew I was having the baby. Then the big question became what would happen when I left the hospital. How am I going to do this? Being barely able to support my daughter and me, I knew that the logical answer was adoption.

Through the pregnancy, I became set with my decision, although emotionally, I felt so disappointed and angry that I had to give up something so precious. Dealing with the negative emotions was only lightened by the fact that I was doing what was best for my unborn child. This decision would provide the stability and opportunities that I couldn't provide.

My son was born on July 5, 2012. It was incredible to be able to hold him in my arms and to feel the enormous amount of love I have for him. It has been less than a month since he was born, and although I do ache to hold my baby again, it brings me so much joy to know that he is with a good family that will love him. The parents and I have chosen to have an open adoption, so it comforts me to know I will be able to see him grow over the years through pictures and letters, and I hope that one day I will see him again.

This has been one of the hardest things I have ever been through, and although I have a lot of healing to do to overcome the grief and loss I feel, I know my son will be safe, healthy and happy; at the end of the day, that is all that matters.

Ready to find out what adoption can do for you and your baby? Contact us today at 1-800-ADOPTION to get free information and support.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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While not every woman who chooses adoption is a young mother, many are. Through adoption, many young women have found an ability to give their babies the best life possible, while finding the opportunity to realize their own dreams, as well. Call American Adoptions today at 1-800-ADOPTION.

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