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Abortion or Adoption - Know the Facts Before Making a Decision

Abortion is Final. Adoption is Just the Beginning.

“Abortion is fast and painless. A clean break. An easy way out. No one will ever have to know of my pregnancy.”

Some women facing an unplanned pregnancy believe the statement above to be true. But the reality is abortion isn’t easy, and it is far from painless.

Abortion or Adoption?

Planned Parenthood’s most recent report states that from Oct. 1, 2011 to Sept. 30, 2012, the organization performed 327,166 abortions and only 2,197 adoption referrals. That equals just 1 adoption for every 149 abortions. Clearly more women choose abortion over adoption, but why?

It is common for women to believe abortion is a “quick fix” to a big problem. They often believe abortion is cheaper, more confidential, and better for their long-term wellbeing, when in reality it is quite the opposite, as they don’t understand the facts about adoption.

If you are considering abortion vs. adoption, here is a brief comparison of the two:

Cost

Abortions range from hundreds to thousands of dollars, depending on your stage of pregnancy. Conversely, not only is adoption free, but you may also receive living expenses from the adoptive family to help you cover pregnancy-related expenses such as rent, food, utilities, transportation and more.

Confidentiality

Some women choose abortion over adoption because it can be done confidentially. What they fail to realize is an adoption can also be completed confidentially, where her family, friends and community won’t know about it. Of course, hiding a pregnancy can be difficult, but adoption agencies like American Adoptions can help you by purchasing baggy clothing or providing a temporary out-of-town living situation. There is always a solution of keeping one’s pregnancy and adoption private.

Long-Term Wellbeing 

Both abortion and adoption are emotionally difficult choices for a woman to make. With abortion, however, it is often harder to accept and live with the decision of terminating a pregnancy. While a woman who chooses adoption can see the smile on her child’s face through pictures or even in person, a woman who chooses abortion is unable to envision her child’s face at all.

Furthermore, women may have difficulty emotionally accepting their abortion decision and may later experience postpartum depression or post-abortion stress syndrome (PASS). PASS can last for several years, sometimes longer, and may manifest itself in symptoms such as anxiety, depression, flashbacks and even suicidal thoughts in extreme cases. Again, neither abortion nor adoption are easy choices to make, but abortion isn’t the emotional “quick fix” women sometimes believe they are signing up for.

The Facts About Adoption

While adoption and abortion are both difficult choices, some women think abortion will be the easiest and quickest solution to their unplanned pregnancy.

One reason they don’t ever consider adoption is simply because they don’t understand the facts about adoption.

Today’s adoptions are much different from those in the past and sometimes portrayed in the media. If you choose adoption, you are in control of the adoption process and get to choose the adoptive family who will raise your child. You will receive yearly pictures and letters of your child and may even maintain a relationship with the family and your child.

And as mentioned before, your adoption services are completely free, and you may also be eligible to receive living expenses to help you with your pregnancy.

By choosing adoption, you give your baby the gift of a wonderful childhood, adoptive parents who may otherwise have no opportunity a chance at becoming parents, and yourself a better chance of moving on from this difficult time in your life.

We here at American Adoptions believe if more women knew the facts about adoption, the ratio of abortions vs. adoptions would be much lower than 149:1, and there would many more women happy with their decisions.

If you're thinking, "I don't want to be pregnant, but I don't want an abortion," please call us confidentially at 1-800-ADOPTION with no obligation for more adoption facts and for free adoption information.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

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