If you can’t get an abortion but don’t want to be a mom, it can feel like you’re out of options. But you’re not.
Through private adoption, you can receive financial support during your pregnancy, choose a loving family for your baby, and create a path forward that feels right for you and your child.
Contact an adoption specialist today to learn more about what options are available in your state.
We’re here to walk you through what adoption looks like when abortion isn’t an option and parenting isn’t something you’re ready for right now.
I Can’t Get an Abortion but Don’t Want to be a Mother
If you can’t get an abortion but don’t want to be a mom, you might feel completely stuck right now. Like your choices have been taken away.
But here’s what matters: you still get to decide what happens next.
Abortion access varies dramatically by state. Some have gestational limits—after a certain point in pregnancy, abortion becomes illegal.
Others require waiting periods, parental consent for minors, or have restrictions that make it nearly impossible to access care. If you’ve passed your state’s deadline, can’t travel, or the logistics just aren’t working, it makes sense to feel overwhelmed.
And you need to know this: it’s completely okay to not want to be a mother. That doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you human—someone navigating an incredibly difficult situation with limited options.
If neither abortion nor parenting feels right, there’s another path: private adoption. It’s not giving up. It’s making an active, loving choice for yourself and your baby.
I Don’t Want My Baby but Don’t Want to Have an Abortion
Maybe abortion is legal where you are. Maybe you could technically get one—but something in you just doesn’t want to.
Maybe it goes against what you believe. Maybe the idea doesn’t sit right with you emotionally, even if you can’t totally explain why. Or maybe you’re worried about what your family, friends, or partner would think.
Whatever your reason is, it’s valid.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why abortion doesn’t feel like the right choice for you. And you don’t have to automatically become a parent just because abortion isn’t the path you want to take.
Adoption is something different—a way to make sure your baby gets raised by people who are ready for parenthood in every way, while you can move forward with your life in a way that actually feels doable.
I’m Pregnant and Scared—You Don’t Have to Go Through This Alone
Right now, if you can’t get an abortion but don’t want to be a mom, you might feel scared, confused, or completely overwhelmed.
You don’t have to figure this out alone. Call us anytime at 1-800-ADOPTION (1-800-236-7846).
Our adoption specialists aren’t here to push you into anything. They’re here to listen, answer your questions, and help you understand your options, whether that’s adoption, parenting, or you’re still deciding.
That first call isn’t a commitment. It’s about getting the information and support you need to think clearly about what comes next. You can call as many times as you need. Ask anything. No judgment.
Sometimes just talking to someone who understands—someone who’s supported hundreds of women in your exact situation—can make everything feel a little less scary.
You can reach out to our 24/7 adoption hotline whenever you need it.
Adoption: A Loving Option When Abortion Isn’t an Option
Adoption isn’t abandoning your baby. It’s not a last resort. It’s a thoughtful, loving decision to give your child a life with a family who’s ready, excited, and prepared to provide everything they need to thrive.
When you choose adoption, you’re choosing a family who:
- Has been carefully screened and approved
- Has the emotional and financial resources to raise a child
- Wants to give your baby opportunities, stability, and unconditional love
- Will honor the sacrifice you’re making
And here’s what makes adoption today different from what you might picture: you’re the one calling the shots. You pick the family. You decide what happens next.
The Support You Get Through Private Adoption
Through American Adoptions, you’ll receive:
- Financial Support: Help with rent, utilities, groceries, maternity clothes, and medical bills (within your state’s laws)
- 24/7 Counseling: Talk to a licensed counselor anytime throughout your pregnancy and after placement
- Open Adoption Options: Decide how much contact you want—letters, photos, visits, or whatever feels right to you
- Post-Placement Support: Continued counseling and resources as you navigate life after adoption
- A Custom Adoption Plan: Every detail reflects what you believe and what you want for your baby’s future
How Adoption Works When You’re Not Ready to Parent
If you’re thinking about adoption, here’s what actually happens—step by step, with no pressure:
Step 1: Connect with Your Dedicated Adoption Specialist
When you contact American Adoptions, you’ll get matched with a specialist who’ll be your main person through the whole thing.
They’ll answer your questions, explain what your options are, and help you figure out what kind of adoption plan feels right for you. Everything you talk about is private, it’s free, and you’re not committing to anything.
Step 2: Create a Custom Adoption Plan
Your adoption plan is exactly that, yours. You decide what you want for your baby, what kind of family you’re looking for, and how much contact you’re comfortable with.
Want to meet the adoptive parents before placement? Want updates and pictures as your baby grows? It’s all your call.
Step 3: Choose the Right Family for Your Child
You’ll look through profiles of families who’ve already been approved and pick the one that feels like the best match.
You’re not just choosing random people, you’re finding a family whose values, lifestyle, and plans for the future line up with what you want for your baby.
View our waiting families today.
Step 4: Get to Know the Adoptive Family
Once you’ve picked a family, you can start getting to know them if you want. Some birth mothers swap letters and pictures.
Others meet up in person, talk on the phone, or stay in touch during the pregnancy. How much contact you have is completely up to you.
Step 5: Plan for Birth and Life After Placement
You’ll work with your adoption specialist to make a birth plan that reflects what you want, who you want in the delivery room, whether you want to hold the baby, how much time you want before placement happens.
After you give birth, you’ll keep getting counseling and support as you start this next chapter of your life.
How American Adoptions Can Help You Right Now
You don’t have to carry this by yourself. You don’t have to feel stuck. Even when abortion is not an option, you still have a path forward that respects what you need and gives your baby a shot at a really beautiful life.
Adoption isn’t about giving up. It’s about making a choice that works for you and your baby when parenting doesn’t feel possible right now.
What if the hardest decision you’re facing right now could actually lead to hope—for you and for your baby? Get free information about your adoption options today.
