Adoption is a word of love in our home. Birth mother is a word of courage. “Placing” your child, instead of “giving” your child away, is taught and enforced. Family is a word not just about blood, but an open heart. Sister is a word of pride. Words matter, and teaching my children the appropriate adoption language is the seed to change.
Many women who placed children for adoption go on to have children they choose to parent, or may be in a position where they are placing a child after already having other children. How do you answer the inevitable questions about adoption? Here’s how.
Seventeen years had passed since I looked into those bright eyes and smelled that sweet scent. The world stopped, nothing else moved, no other breath exhaled except hers and mine. Two beacons that had been calling to each other for years had finally found one another.
Open adoption communication can be tricky. Add social media into that, and things can get really complicated. What’s the best way to navigate social media and adoption? Find out here.
There may be moments when your child shouts somethings that is a total punch in the gut. How can you respond when your kids say hurtful things? Even though it may not feel like it, moments that hurt can become opportunities for healing.
Every birth parent needs empathy from their adoption agency, along with a lifetime of post-placement therapy and education on grief. Adoption agencies should be a safe place for birth parents to heal, learn, and grow.
As a birth parent, the holidays can be difficult. It’s a time for family and celebration, and celebrating is something you may not feel like doing if your child isn’t near you. However, this list of holiday activities for your birth child can make all the difference for your holiday season.
Adoption can be amazing, but it can also be difficult. You don’t have to go through it alone. Whether you are a birth parent or adoptive parent, there are resources to help you along the way.
Not a single day has passed on my adoption journey where I didn’t feel loved, accepted and supported by these four people in my life. Words can never fully express my gratitude.
Adoption is becoming a more and more “normal” method to build a family, but it’s still one that a large percentage of the population doesn’t quite understand. As a birth parent, you have a unique perspective to let those around you know how great adoption can be.