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Adoption vs. Abortion vs. Parenting

Your Life. Your Baby. Your Choice.

Facing an unplanned pregnancy can be very difficult and scary, and deciding what to do will be even harder.

Keeping perspective at this time is critical. The most important thing to remember is that you have a choice. Every woman does.

After learning of an unplanned pregnancy, there are three paths to choose from – parenting, abortion or adoption – all of which are explored in the information below:

Cost Differences


There is no cost to you if you choose adoption. In fact, pregnancy-related expenses are paid for by the adoptive family, which often include medical care and living expenses. Examples may include: rent, utilities, maternity clothing, food, prenatal vitamins and any other medical expenses not covered by your insurance or Medicaid. You will be able to speak with your adoption specialist about your specific needs.


Depending on how far along you are in the pregnancy, the cost will range from $500-$2,000 for an abortion. There may also be additional charges for ultrasound, the "morning-after" pill, birth control and further medical treatment, should an infection should occur.


Parenting is the most expensive option. Total cost to parent a child ranges from $1,000-$2,000 monthly. This estimate may include but is not limited to: diapers, baby bottles, formula, clothing, car seat, day care, first aid supplies, blankets, crib or basinet, and hygiene products. A parent must also budget for shelter, food, transportation, and utilities to raise their child.

When all of these expenses are added up, it will cost approximately $12,000 - $24,000 per year to raise a child. This estimate does not include education and other items that children will require.

Comparing Adoption vs. Abortion




You can pursue earlier goals

You can pursue earlier goals

You can live independently

You can live independently

You will not have to parent prematurely

You will not have to parent prematurely

You will avoid being forced into a hasty marriage or relationship

You will avoid being forced into a hasty marriage or relationship

If you are a teenager, you can resume your youthful lifestyle

If you are a teenager you can resume your youthful lifestyle

Note: There are no similarities between parenting and abortion. One important similarity between adoption and parenting is that you can give life to your child and watch your child grow up.




Your pregnancy ends with giving life

Your pregnancy ends with death

You can feel good and positive about your choice

You may feel guilt and shame about your choice

You will remember giving birth

You will remember taking a life

You will have plenty of time to plan you and your baby's future

Abortion is final; you can't go back on your decision

You can hold, name, and love your baby

You will never know or treasure your baby

You can have continued contact with your baby

You will miss the opportunity to see your child develop

(Bethany Christian Services)

If you're thinking, "I don't want to be pregnant, but I don't want an abortion," read the following to learn more about adoption vs. abortion, or click the following to receive free adoption information.

Information available through these links is the sole property of the companies and organizations listed therein. America Adoptions, Inc. provides this information as a courtesy and is in no way responsible for its content or accuracy.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is American Adoptions the right adoption agency choice for many birth mothers?

American Adoptions is one of the largest licensed adoption agencies in the United States. Each year, we work with thousands of women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and offer assistance to these women. Our large, caring staff is able to assist you seven days a week and provide you with one-on-one counseling about your pregnancy and available options.

You should choose an adoption agency where you feel completely comfortable with their services and staff. With American Adoptions, you will work with an Adoption Specialist who is on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Adoption Specialist will be your advocate and will provide support and guidance as you create an adoption plan that is right for you.

How will the family tell my child about me and the adoption when my child is older?

Each family has their own style of introducing adoption to the child. When you are matched with an adoptive family, you can ask them this question. If you would like your Adoption Specialist to discuss it for you, just let her know. He or she can share your wishes or provide good ideas from other adoptive families.

You will also be able to share what you want your baby to know about you. You can complete a keepsake booklet to share hobbies, stories, photos of you and your family and a letter to your baby. The adoptive family can provide this to your child as he or she grows older. Be as creative as you like! Some birth mothers have even knitted a special blanket as a gift to their baby or given a similar symbol of their love.

The father of your baby can fill out the birth father's keepsake booklet or write a letter too. You may have other family members who would also like to share photos or a letter to the baby. This is your opportunity to pass on your and your family's love and to share your personality, history and reasons for choosing adoption. The adoptive family will treasure whatever information you provide and will share it with the baby at an appropriate age. In most adoptive homes, the word adoption is in the child's vocabulary early on, and adoption is celebrated in their lives.

Additional Resources

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