Not only can we show our appreciation to mothers who are a very present part of a child’s life, but also to the many women who have made selfless and courageous decisions to share in the role of motherhood by placing their child for adoption.
Open and semi-open adoption has become increasingly common as the benefits of such situations are made clear. Still, some prospective birth mothers would prefer a closed adoption. Here are some things to consider about this big decision.
I believe the most important thing you can say to a woman who is considering adoption is — you have a choice. You always have a choice and I will support you either way.
Your relationship with the adoptive family and your child will be a brand-new experience. Navigating this type of relationship might be difficult, so it’s a good idea to envision what you’d like it to include beforehand. Here are some questions to ask yourself when you’re thinking of your future relationship with your child.
There will be moments in your adoption where you will feel challenged, vulnerable, and nervous with the weight of your baby’s future on your shoulders. But you don’t have to go through this on your own. Adoption specialists are always available whenever you need them.
Adoption is a word of love in our home. Birth mother is a word of courage. “Placing” your child, instead of “giving” your child away, is taught and enforced. Family is a word not just about blood, but an open heart. Sister is a word of pride. Words matter, and teaching my children the appropriate adoption language is the seed to change.
Many women who placed children for adoption go on to have children they choose to parent, or may be in a position where they are placing a child after already having other children. How do you answer the inevitable questions about adoption? Here’s how.
Seventeen years had passed since I looked into those bright eyes and smelled that sweet scent. The world stopped, nothing else moved, no other breath exhaled except hers and mine. Two beacons that had been calling to each other for years had finally found one another.
Open adoption communication can be tricky. Add social media into that, and things can get really complicated. What’s the best way to navigate social media and adoption? Find out here.
There may be moments when your child shouts somethings that is a total punch in the gut. How can you respond when your kids say hurtful things? Even though it may not feel like it, moments that hurt can become opportunities for healing.